How to tell the family

saribearij

My FI and I are telling our parents first hand, however my mother makes a huge deal anytime anyone in the family announces anything via email or Facebook, which is how we found out about the birth of my cousins' last three children.  I am the youngest cousin and am fairly close to my family.  We are also waiting until I graduate from college in 2012 to wed, even though he is graduating this spring.

I'm just wondering what the best and most proper way to tell all of the aunts, uncles, and cousins other than waiting until we see all of them on Thanksgiving.

bethsmiles

We're going to make phone calls to everyone that we know will be invited to the wedding. For others (i.e. not so close friends I will send out a mass text) I hate finding out things by facebook, I think its a rude way to tell people because its not really telling them.

Kristin789

>>the best and most proper way to tell all of the aunts, uncles, and cousins

Your mother calls them on the telephone.

KatyRoseM

I called anyone who I would be hurt to hear about their wedding on facebook.  The rest got e-mails, or were told by my mom. 

akhensley81

I agree with Kristin.. talk to your parents about it and see what they think. She'll probably love to be the one who delivers that news.

dawnmarie0627

FI and I made a list of people we had to call. When we called my parents (we had to call them because we wouldn't be seeing them in person for about a month) my mom volunteered to call a bunch of relatives for us. FIs Mom did the same when we called her. We called everyone else on our list and then when we knew that everyone important to us knew we were engaged, we posted it on facebook. It was a good thing we did because within a few hours after we called everyone, relatives that our parents called were posting all over facebook congratulating us.

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I called immediate family one right after the other so they didn't hear from anyone else, as I have a very chatty family. I actually called my grandma when they were at a casino and she ended up bawling right there in the middle of the floor, which was funny. I also called the girl I kne would be my MOH. H called his family.

The rest found out either by e-mail, word of mouth, or FB.

mica178

We contacted all the most important people directly, then let word of mouth spread as it naturally does.

frogurt814

We told our parents and siblings the day we got engaged.  We told the rest of H's family a few days later at a b-day party for his grandma.

As for my side of the family, I don't really remember what we did.  I am not very close with most of my aunts/cousins.  I think my dad probably called his sisters and told them.  My mom told her one brother and his fam right away.

We called our friends that were close to us to tell them so they wouldn't have to find out on facebook. 

PreppySailor

We called both parents, and then I'm sure they called everyone else family-wise. But we also emailed one of these ridiculous put-your-face-in-the-dancing-people engagement announcements to all friends, and extended family members.

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marisah83

We called our parents and a couple of our close friends the night we got engaged.  Parents passed along the news to the rest of the family, and we filled in other friends as we saw them.

Calypso1977

we told our parents and siblings, and then anyone else we wanted to get the news from us.  after that, it just spread naturally.  i dont think you need to call every single family member or every single person on our guest list.

i did read abotu SIL's engagemetn on FB first.  i gave her crap for not calling her brother first.  we have bets on whether we'll hear of her first pregancy this way too.