Invitation Question

Pink7781

I know similar questions have already been asked but I'm not sure if the general rule of send an invite in case plans change applies to my situation.

My cousin is scheduled to have a c-section 4 days after my wedding and lives halfway across the country (our wedding is in NJ). She sent me a message on Facebook the other day that she's really sorry but she won't be able to make it to the wedding since she is having a c-section a few days after. No one in myfamily nor I have never met her husband so there is no way that he'd fly out to attend in her place.

To make a long story short, do I still send an invitation to them since she has already told me she won't be able to make it? I in no way want to appear "gift grabby" but I'm just not sure what to do. Thanks for any advice!

sucrets4

Send an invite, include a note saying that you'll be thinking about her and sending well wishes to her and her family.

An invite does not require a gift, but I think it's the polite thing to send one to family.

tlv204

Yeah I'd still send one, but include a note saying you know she can't come but just wanted to let her know she'll be in your thoughts.

Pink7781

Including a note is a great idea, thanks!

Stupid question, do I still include the response card too then or should I write the note on the back of the response card?

tlv204

Hmm I hadn't really thought about that part. I guess if the response card is part of the "package deal" like if you have pocketfolds or something, I would still include it, but you don't need to. I would just write the note on a separate paper and put it on top of the invitation to make sure they see it I think.

mwhitson14

Definitely still send her an invte, and write the note like the ladies suggested, good luck with the c section, we're gonna miss you, blah blah. I wouldn't include the response card, because then she may feel like she needs to send it back when she doesn't really.