Plus Ones

Meaghann17

Hi Everyone,
I am compiling some addresses for save the dates and have a question regarding some plus ones.

My FFIL has 5 first cousins that we are inviting. They are all older and single (divorced for a long time). We are extending the wedding invitation to them and a guest. My question is how should their STD be addressed? None of them have a significant other and I feel it is premature to ask who they will be bringing to the wedding in 10 months. FI wanted to just write "Cousin and Guest" but I have read its bad etiquette to write and guest.

So for now do I just write the cousins name on the save the date?

Thx!

kcscejal

For the save the date I would just write the cousin's name.  On the actual invites you can let them know they are welcome to bring a guest.

Meaghann17

Thanks!

Simply Fated

For the Save the Dates, I don't think you have to include a plus 1, if a relationship isn't written in stone. I mean, if you send a STD, then, yes, yuo should invite the person. But this doesn't mean you can't invite more people when you send out the actual invites.
That made a lot of sense in my head, honest. I know it doesn't look like it makes sense, though. Sorry.

Beachy730

Just write the names on the STD.  For the invites you would write & guest on the inner envelope if you have them.  

stephasuasu

Do these cousins need to travel to get to your wedding? If so, then I would put and guest so that they are in the know that when their wedding invite comes it will include a guest invite. This way, if they need to buy plan tickets, they can get two if needed. 

Meaghann17

They will be driving about 2 hours so that should be ok

hlq2011

Also, it's all right to write "and guest" when you are extending an invitation for someone to bring whomever they would like.

It's just that when you know someone is going to bring a specific person, then it's better to specifically identify that person rather than write "and guest"

TrendyTina

Guest information is not needed for a save the date. For the invitation put the cousin's name on the outer envelop and cousin and guest on the inner envelope.