S/O: Cheating

**Mutley**

What do you consider cheating? 

Do you and your SO have the same definition of cheating? 

tlv204

Any contact with someone else that you would find necessary to hide from your SO.  And yes.

crfische

Emotional connections with other people.
Physical contact of any kind.

Really, anything that he wouldn't do in front of me, he shouldn't be doing.

and yes.

Kati0105

I consider any type of sexual activity (kissing, touching) to be cheating.  Emotional stuff is harder, although if he felt the need to hide a relationship from me I would consider that cheating and I definitely consider sexting a big no no.  However (confession time) FI and I have discussed the possibility of having a threesome at some point, which neither of us would consider to be cheating, and he knows that I make out with girls from time to time and doesn't consider that cheating either...

sgervais88

We are on the same page. Any physical contact (other than like handshaking and hugging hello/goodbye). Like kissing, holding hands, etc are no nos. And any emotional connections or relationships that we felt we had to hide are no nos as well.
We've only had problems with this once before. A friend of his who had a major thing for him always felt the need to text him nonstop, and would call him all the time to pick her up or bring her home, even if he was nowhere near her. And she was always hugging him when she was around him. I was uncomfortable with it, but figured I was just being a girl. Then I realized she would complain if I was around when they hung out, and she would completely ignore me when I was talking to her.  And finally one day she told him that she felt we should break up and that we weren't a good match. Thats when I was like heellll no. No more seeing her lol.

lullabymommy

I consider anything that is threatening to our relationship cheating.... I have yet to find anything that would make me feel threatened, but then again FI and I don't really have interests in other people. 

We are not on the same page. I am more liberal than him with my definition of cheating. This does not really bother me though because I have no interest in having  a romantic/sexual relationship with another guy.