Wedding Party

mas5559

I am prety sure I can answer my own question (I just need to grow a set and be honest) but I would like someone elses opinion. I USED to have a friend that I was close too and did a lot with. Fast forward a long story you probably don't want to hear. I hadn't talked to her in months until I got engaged. All of a sudden she is texting, calling and planning outtings. She has asked everyone but me who is in my wedding party. How do I nicely tell her she is not in it?

ally_jade

You don't need to tell her. She will figure it out

larzhope

agree w/ pp, she'll get the hint when you don't ask her.... by brinigng it up you're just being rude

hellerc1

Just don't say anything. But make sure you say nothing because if you slip and say she is in it then she is.

mandi921vh

She will get the hint when you don't ask her, please don't tell her why you didn't choose her. 

Carlos27

I agree with everyone else, she will eventually figure it out.

And, don't feel pressured to include her now that's she has come back onto the scene, as you said yourself - she 'used' to be your friend.

GL

quirky75

Agreed with PP. Plus this is probably obvious, but if you do hang out with her don't bring up wedding talk so you don't get stuck in an awkward situation.

Judith233

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-party-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f2466e4c-fab7-4fe7-97b4-8317d613a423Post:c6db048b-119c-459e-a114-6bb0d16162db">Re: Wedding Party</a>:
[QUOTE]Agreed with PP. Plus this is probably obvious, but if you do <strong>hang out with her don't bring up wedding talk so you don't get stuck in an awkward situation</strong>.
Posted by deeegoalie[/QUOTE]

This is a must.

mkrupar

You never tell someone when they're excluded from something. She'll get the hint when you don't ask her.

thesequel

Don't discuss any wedding details with her, especially those involving your attendants.  She'll get the hint, but don't lay it out why she isn't in your party.  You've chosen - done deal.