Why get married?

LoiseauJaune

Since you can cohabitate, have sex, and have kids outside of marriage these days, why get married and have a wedding? Even if you did want to get married, why not just elope?

Just wondering!

Kasi80

Personally, I wanted a party and all the attention on ME!  What else could be the motivation to spend a bagillion $s on one night?

ohwhynot

Does this have anything to do with your documentary? 

The Mel and Todd Show

I do it for the messageboards. 
I've heard some other people do it for Jesus. 

shellydiane820

it makes jesus happy

ExpatPumpkin

I wanted my little guy to have a real father.

Here's my little guy:

JoyTate1

Because I want the life insurance money when he kicks it.

samurai21

Presents. Why furnish my own house when I can have others do it for me?

milkygal

I just wanted a big rock, a white dress and LOTS of gifts!

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Does this have anything to do with your documentary? 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Ha! Nice.

Kasi80

So I could have 2 incomes instead of one.

samurai21

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[QUOTE]Since you can cohabitate, have sex, and have kids outside of marriage <strong>these days</strong>, why get married and have a wedding? Even if you did want to get married, why not just elope? Just wondering!
Posted by LoiseauJaune[/QUOTE]

Also, because people haven't been doing any of these things until now, and just because people can, doesn't mean that all people do.

Kasi80

So my kid could have a legitimate sibling.

milkygal

oh and to be a Stay at home wife. Really it sounds better then stay at home girlfriend, right?

wcvsb3b5

You can do those things before you get married?!?! That's it, the wedding is OFF!!

playtntsbpg30

I do not like attention, especially being the center of attention...I wanted the church wedding only to experience it and to have my father walk me down, and so my father had that chance as well. My sister got married in our backyard 16 yrs ago. My brother got married 13-14 yrs ago in his yard (trailer park) they are now divorced but I would be the only one that would actually have that experience and as for the party and the money bit that was more for family and friends and well E-he likes the booze and being around people.

I was actually going to be able to make our wedding under $5000, I didn't have any idea how much the church would be or what we would have to do to marry at the church so without the church, I was at $1500 for the reception and that included open bar. It was awesome and sooo cheap!!

Too bad he's now going to have to wait who knows how long to have that big party but it probably won't be as cheap. (if we get back together)

stinkerbell6879

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[QUOTE]I wanted my little guy to have a real father. Here's my little guy:
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]
Me too! Here are my daughters...


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SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]Since you can cohabitate, have sex, and have kids outside of marriage these days, why get married and have a wedding? Even if you did want to get married, why not just elope? Just wondering!
Posted by LoiseauJaune[/QUOTE]

1- Because ceremonies have meaning in people's live and cultures beyond living together and knocking boots once in a while. You might as well ask why any ceremonies exist at all.

2- When you elope, you still get married. If you are happy about getting married and want to share your joy with others, then you invite those people to your ceremony. Its not that hard of a concept, really!

stinkerbell6879

Oh! one more thing.....So I can spend HIS money rather then mine! duh!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

1. We want kids and I want everything above board legally. Life insurance, bank accounts, etc. I want each of us to be protected as well as any children we might have protected in case of a death or divorce. Without the kids aspect, I can easily see how someone might choose to never marry. However, I also like the feeling of permanance, although we'd probably stay together even without the paperwork.

2. We like to throw parties. We're lushes. We dress to impress. Er, sometimes. It's our style to do something nice that people will enjoy rather than something really low-key. But hey, I have no problem with wearing pajama bottoms to the courthouse and getting married that way.

katiewhompus

The insurance baby!

Honestly, it's a lot easier to get through life with him being my husband in regards to medical situations, insurance, finances, etc. I also noticed a very dramatic shift in people's attitudes once he became my husband instead of my boyfriend.
Then there's that whole romantic love and being together forever ...

and I him.

eastunder1

Beecause a honeymoon registry without a wedding preceeding it is sooo gauche. 

Kasi80

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[QUOTE] My brother got married 13-14 yrs ago in his yard (trailer park) they are now divorced
Posted by playtnteppg27[/QUOTE]


What's wrong with trailer parks?  I happen to like mine!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

LesPaul

We just wanted to piss off our Exes.

swtasa

Well because I did that with other people too and I actually want this one to know I'd let to spend lthe rest of my life with him.

Besides some states (mine) require you to be legally married for 1 year to adopt... and the insurance. Why the big party? Because my mom cried like I was killing her when we said we wanted to JOP in Vegas. I'm a doormat so I caved

Edit: Wow talk about leaving out important words. Yeah 1 year to adopt.

Kasi80

To make my extremely conservative ILs very uncomfortable stuck in a room with tons of drunk people.

NuggetBrain

So that we could bang without feeling like the big guy upstairs was looking at us through disappointed eyes.

ExpatPumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why get married? : Me too! Here are my daughters...
Posted by stinkerbell6879[/QUOTE]

Super cuties ;)

milkygal

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[QUOTE]So that we could bang without feeling like the big guy upstairs was looking at us through disappointed eyes.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

oh yeah, this too!

stinkerbell6879

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why get married? : Super cuties ;)
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]
Thanks! and now that it's legal they can call him Dad :)

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]Since you can cohabitate, have sex, and have kids outside of marriage these days, why get married and have a wedding? Even if you did want to get married, why not just elope? Just wondering!
Posted by LoiseauJaune[/QUOTE]

Did you know that you could ALWAYS do these things without being married?  Shocking, huh?