Invitations w/ guest

graysquirrel

I am trying to figure out how to properly address my invitations to include "and guest". All of the guides I've found say that one should put "and guest" on the inner envelope which I do not have. Is it ok to put the "and guest" part on the front of the envelope with the named guest? 

kcscejal

Yes, that's fine.  Also, if you can find out the name of the guest using that is best.

Beachy730

We did not have inner envelopes so we wrote it on the outer envelope.  I believe that technically the proper way to do it is to make an insert card that says "you are welcome to bring a guest." 

If you know the guest's name then yes you can include that on the invite.  But for most single people you won't know the name since they aren't aware yet they they can bring someone.

DanielleZZ

Yep its fine but for the ones you can i would ask for the name of the guest.

graysquirrel

Yup, I will definitely be adding guest names! Some people don't have SOs, but I wanted them to be able to bring a friend/date =0). Thanks!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

If they're truly single you can:

write "john smith and guest" on the outer envelope (I did that)
write a note saying, "Hi john, I just wanted to let you know you are welcome to bring a date. Please let us know."
contact them separately and have that conversation/ask if they'd like to bring someone and what that person's name is

mica178

If I knew the name of the SO, I put it on the outer envelope.  For the true singletons, I only put their name on the outer envelope and put the "and guest" on the inner envelope.  If you're not doing an inner envelope, I think writing a little note that says that said friend can bring a guest looks better than "and guest" on the outer envelope.

dewreb

I think you can put "and guest" wherever you'd like, since your guests will be thinking, "Yay! She's nice for allowing me a guest!" rather than thinking, "Dang it! She put it on the outter envelope, that's not the right way..." I wasn't going to say anything, because I know how certain regions are with their obsessions about traditions and etiquette, but I see that you're from my hometown of Mpls, I promise you...no one that I know from the midwest would care about where you wrote "and guest"! (Though, just as a disclaimer...I'm from South Minneapolis...maybe in the suburbs they'd care?) But really, if I were you, I'd put it right on the front envelope.

tenofcups4me

Didn't have inners for my first wedding and we put "and Guest" on the outer -- the meaning is clear, it's an adaptation of putting it on the inner, and there's nothing inherently rude in it, which fits my personal definition of acceptable. Personally, I think a note would be silly and overkill.

Karen's MOH

I put 'and guest' on the outside of the envelope. While I know proper etiquette says I should have included a card that said they could bring someone, I felt like most people not in the wedding world don't know that and would think it was an afterthought, like I got to the end of the list and realized I could invite more people. I have a few friends that would know the difference, but they are all married