FI's BM and my best friend have both mentioned throwing us bachelor and bachelorette parties. We would really like to have a combined party, because the crowd will be much more fun for everyone that way.
My question is, do we have to invite SO's to a party that is just the WP, if it is co-ed? Best Man's FI is just truly awful (she makes every social situation tense and awkward for everyone because she is so rude to everyone). I would rather not have a combined party if she would be there.
(I know I have to suck it up for the RD and wedding. Can we do the bachelor/ette party without her?)
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[QUOTE]I think the easiest way to minimize contact with his FI would be to have separate parties provided your host/hostess can accomodate that.
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</div><div>We could do this definitely. It's just that one of the BMs is FI's friend who I don't know well. Then it's just me sister and my best friend who aren't very close. It just wouldn't be very much fun for anyone.</div><div>
</div><div>On his side, he has his two best friends, but also my brother, my best guy friend, and my best friend boyfriend who we hang out with all the time. So the combined group is just a much better dynamic. </div><div>
</div><div>Unless crazypants has to be there :-/ </div><div>
</div><div>Thanks Addie!
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Otherwise I agree w/ Addie that if it's JUST the WP you can probably get away with a co-ed party with no SOs. I wouldn't try co-ed with extra friends but excluding her; it will just cause drama.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO's to bachelor/bachelorette? : We could do this definitely. It's just that one of the BMs is FI's friend who I don't know well. Then it's just me sister and my best friend who aren't very close. It just wouldn't be very much fun for anyone. On his side, he has his two best friends, but also my brother, my best guy friend, and my best friend boyfriend who we hang out with all the time. So the combined group is just a much better dynamic. Unless crazypants has to be there :-/ Thanks Addie!
Posted by Salsera29[/QUOTE]
oooh see, this is why I <3 the knot! Because ever since I came here I learned new things, like how sides do not have to be gender specific. Your brother could have been on your side and his friend could have been on his side, you know? You're learning these things, too aren't you lol?
What if you tried two parties, but offered both sides to attend both parties? Like, see if the hosts can have them on seperate nights or same night but different times. And then your brother can choose to go to yours and his friend can choose to go to his? Or does that complicate things further?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO's to bachelor/bachelorette? : oooh see, this is why I <3 the knot! Because ever since I came here I learned new things, like how sides do not have to be gender specific. <strong> You're learning these thYour brother could have been on your side and his friend could have been on his side, you know?ings, too aren't you lol?</strong> What if you tried two parties, but offered both sides to attend both parties? Like, see if the hosts can have them on seperate nights or same night but different times. And then your brother can choose to go to yours and his friend can choose to go to his? Or does that complicate things further?
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</div><div>Oh yeah, that's definitely something I with I had learned in time!</div><div>
</div><div>I think having two parties with mixed people would make things complicated...I think we're going to plan on having the combined party and either not invite her or just cross my fingers that she won't come.</div><div>
</div><div>Thank you all for your advice!
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To me a bachelor/bachelorette party invite is not like a wedding invite where everone SO's need to be invited. To me, it's suppose to be your nearest and dearest.
Just my opinion though!
If she really is as awful as she sounds, then take the high road.
My mom says the best revenge is living a happy life.
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It's one thing for the bachelor/ette to have their own "guys night" or "girls night" where having the opposite sex there would completely change the dynamic of the party....that's why these parties are an exception to the traditional rules about inviting social units together, but if the party is co-ed I think all the traditional rules about significant others would apply.
I could possibly see an exception if it was JUST the wedding party, but if even a couple extraneous people are invited it would feel like a slap in the face to be excluded as the SO.
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So if I had a bachelorette party and I invited 3 of my best guy friends (2 of which are engaged to each other), would I then have to invite everyone else SO's?
[QUOTE]So if I had a bachelorette party and I invited 3 of my best guy friends (2 of which are engaged to each other), would I then have to invite everyone else SO's?
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Yes. I stand by that. If you choose to open up the party to a both sex dynamic there's no reason not to invite SOs. "Traditional" b-parties (aka, one sex) are ONLY an exception to the SO rule because of their nature as guys or girls only.
ETA: my best friend is a gay man who was my man of honor. His partner was invited to my own B party because even though we weren't very close, there was no justifiable reason in my mind to exclude SOs.....that would have been different if it had done a purely "girls" night or a party with wedding party only--no exceptions.
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