Anyone around tonight?

sarah0725

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone around tonight? : You're getting married on my birthday! Good choice :) And yay for good FMILs. Mine's pretty awesome too.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Yay for your birthday! Momentous day indeed.

DNB, I haven't read all the way through that stupid thread - does she ever give a reason why it is so necessary to get married legally right away?

amber2123

That is total bs. I get the reasons for wanting two weddings, but to lie to your guests...that's low.  And to clarify, I only understand if it's religious/military/immigration related

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone around tonight? : Yay for your birthday! Momentous day indeed. DNB, I haven't read all the way through that stupid thread - does she ever give a reason why it is so necessary to get married legally right away?
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]
Immigration. But he's already in the US apparently. So I don't really know why it's so dire to get married right this second.

andy71781

I don't really even understand any situation.  b/c the thing is that you can plan a wedding in a week. 

kellyjellybelly

Guys it's cause they want to live together!  Follow along.  

andy71781

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone around tonight? : Immigration. But he's already in the US apparently. So I don't really know why it's so dire to get married right this second.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]
yeah I don't get that at all.  It sounds like a living together situation to me.

laurenclaire1386

Andy, I don't get it either. This "experience" is one that I would've been ok skipping, quite frankly. I'm grateful for my wedding, and I'm excited about it, but it's not so important that I would go get married, then have a re do.

Beachy730

Because he lives 3 hours away in another state, and his visa is through his work.  So if they get married his visa would be through her, and he could quit his job to live with her.  It has absolutely nothing to do with immigration issues.  Its selfishness issues.

amber2123

Well, with Wicca you have to be spiritually handfasted for at least year before you can get legally married.  So sugar and I had a small ceremony with just our circle two years before the day of our wedding next year.  Our wedding is going to be a smallish celebration of our legal ceremony, but to the religion it will just be a vow renewal.  That's why I understand some issues.
Edit:clarification

andy71781

and why can't she move there?  So the solution is for him to quit his job, have a fake wedding and then plan a PPP day?  Sounds like a PERFECT idea.

sarah0725

Hm. I can think of some immigration situations where it would make sense to get married right away, but I don't see why this one is so dire. I feel like FI and I made it through quite a lot of LDR to get to where we are now, and six months of difference isn't all that much.

laurenclaire1386

Well that clarification just makes her an asshole, plain and simple.

mica178

Wow, that's all sorts of ridiculous.

I'm enjoying the one time in our married life that H will probably ever do any housecleaning.  We just unpacked our brand new Dyson, so he's happily vacuuming the house.  Boys and toys.  Why is it that starting tomorrow, he'll likely never turn on the vacuum again?

amber2123

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[QUOTE]Wow, that's all sorts of ridiculous. I'm enjoying the one time in our married life that H will probably ever do any housecleaning.  We just unpacked our brand new Dyson, so he's happily vacuuming the house.  Boys and toys.  Why is it that starting tomorrow, he'll likely never turn on the vacuum again?
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
Because he has to use it because it's new.  Then he'll decide it has no apeal because it's used and not fun anymore

kellyjellybelly

Righ, but then you're married. You play the cards you are dealt.  If that's your decision, that's great.  But people who run around thinking they can lie about it and still do it the way they really want really bother me.  

I don't really give a damn if people want to have a second party - just be honest about it.  

Like you said, Sarah, it's not a dire situation.  IMO, she should be thankful that they both have jobs at the moment.

Beachy730

Yeah like I said that thread is just full of stupid. 

Amber- you're kind of doing the opposite though, since you aren't legally married yet, you're only married in the eyes of your religion, and need that in order to get legally married. 

Mica- haha my H was the same way when we got our new vaccuum with the pet hair attachment. 

aMrsin09

Hi All.

I keep trying to play along and then you all send me off on random threads!

I'm trying to find the one over on ML.  Anyone have a link?

mica178

That's exactly what H is doing.  My dog is a shed monster, and the carpet was gross with dog hair.  

The funny thing is we have a maid coming tomorrow.  So that's why I wasn't bothering to vacuum.  But H must try out all attachments, etc.  I guess the maid'll have an easier first visit than originally planned.

amber2123

dn-I know that's why I said that I only understand in a few circumstances.

kellyjellybelly

H is watching the MNF game, and I don't think I've hated anyone as much as I hate Michael Vick.  And all the praise and glofirication of his is making me angry.  I still believe once you are convicted of a felony, you should be banned for life.

Beachy730

Agreed KJB.  Throw all the freaking parties you want.  I'll side-eye if you wear a wedding gown to them and do traditional wedding things at a vow-renewal, but just call it what it is.  Don't lie to your guests, and especially to your friends and family. 

And honestly, I'll never understand the justification for the military without thinking its because of the money or the benefits.  Yeah, H and I could have ran to the JOP right after we got engaged, and then collected a ton more BAH, and saved money on me paying for insurance.  But its not the right thing to do. 

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Righ, but then you're married. You play the cards you are dealt.  If that's your decision, that's great.  But people who run around thinking they can lie about it and still do it the way they really want really bother me.   <strong>I don't really give a damn if people want to have a second party - just be honest about it.  </strong> Like you said, Sarah, it's not a dire situation.  IMO, she should be thankful that they both have jobs at the moment.
Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]
I'm firmly in the you need to pick one or the other camp. I don't know why I'm so unbending on this, but I loathe the concept of vow renewals. Vows don't expire, therefore you don't need to renew them.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Hi All. I keep trying to play along and then you all send me off on random threads! I'm trying to find the one over on ML.  Anyone have a link?
Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE]

Nope.  I just ventured over there to try and find it, and got scared off because I don't recognize a single name over there.  Seriously I come here for the people and the entertainment, I don't need to go there. 

kellyjellybelly

Oh LC, I know what you're saying and I see why it bothers peoples.  But I like parties  

sarah0725

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[QUOTE]H is watching the MNF game, and I don't think I've hated anyone as much as I hate Michael Vick.  And all the praise and glofirication of his is making me angry.  I still believe once you are convicted of a felony, you should be banned for life.
Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]

I keep having this argument with my dad. He's still a fan of the green team, and I really feel like I can't be right now. My current stand is that if the Green Team is going to employ convicts as players, maybe they should also get Plaxico Burress, and why stop at players? There are lots of other convicts who also need jobs, and they could staff the entire Linc. Kind of a necessary service.

amber2123

The only vow renewal I've been to was my aunts, and they had that because they had gone through some tough things, to the point where they almost got divorced.  But they worked their way through it and had a big vow renewal.  I thought it was beautiful.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone around tonight? : I'm firmly in the you need to pick one or the other camp. I don't know why I'm so unbending on this, but I loathe the concept of vow renewals. Vows don't expire, therefore you don't need to renew them.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Haha especailly after only like 6 months.  I don't think people will ever stop having receptions later when they can afford it, but just don't call it a wedding.  All these brides are referring to their actual wedding day as the day they sign papers.  No idiots, its your freaking wedding day. 

I love all the ones that say they aren't considered legally married in the church's eyes until its performed in the church.  Okay well if you're lying to people and cheating the government, then i really don't think Jesus is too worried about you being married in the church. 

mica178

H is watching MNF too.  Michael Vick might be an amazing FB player, but his actions are/were disgusting, and I am happy when the crowds boo him.  He doesn't deserve to be celebrated after what he's done.

To distract you from unhappy football player/dog thoughts, here's some happy doggie silliness:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RRjqkUAs8k

I want that dog.

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone around tonight? : Haha especailly after only like 6 months.  I don't think people will ever stop having receptions later when they can afford it, but just don't call it a wedding.  All these brides are referring to their actual wedding day as the day they sign papers.  No idiots, its your freaking wedding day.  I love all the ones that say they aren't considered legally married in the church's eyes until its performed in the church.  Okay well if you're lying to people and cheating the government, then i really don't think Jesus is too worried about you being married in the church. 
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>That's so darned true.  </div>

andy71781

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/45374008.aspx

ok here is the one where she says it.  Jeana is the one who got cheated on, Bouttime is the offender.