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Favor question

I'm so freaking indecisive about favors, it's ridiculous.

Help me out.

Whatever answer you choose, let me know how many you think I need. Invited 175 guests, would not be surprised if they all show up.

The coffee favor, because we are big on coffee. Coffee beans are going to be in the CPs, and we can get bags of coffee from a local place that we LOVE for like $1.50 each.

The fortune cookies, because it's FI's favorite snacks, he loves them like craaaazy. I can do these for about $75, so it would be the cheaper option.

Or are they both lame and I need to keep looking? I'm not really wanting to DIY something, because I'll be right in the midst of my teaching position, so I'm worried I won't really have the time.
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Re: Favor question

  • If you did fortune cookies, can you personalize what the fortunes are?
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  • Nothing.  Is that an option?  

    Otherwise I would go with the cookies, mostly becuase I hate coffee. Wink
  • On one website that I'm looking at, yes. But the cheapest option would be to not personalize.
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  • honest I would just skip them.

    I'm not a coffee drinker and while DH is, I'm not sure he even knows we own a coffee maker. So the bad would just be left.

    I've never been a fan of fortune cookies.  Yay,  I'd open in up, but I would not eat it.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • I would do the coffee.  I would think the cookies would be hit or miss depending on where you order them from.  Some fortune cookie favors taste kind of funky, but it sounds like you know the coffee is legit. 
  • NC, definitely an option :) Favors are the last thing on my to buy list, so if it gets down to it and I don't have the money, it ain't happening :)
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  • Haha amoro! :) My family is so traditional, they might freak if I don't do them. But if no one mentions them, maybe I can get away without them. . . :D
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  • Last night a friend of mine was telling me how another friend of hers made a donation to the animal shelter and put pictures of puppies from the pound with a poem at the tables to tell the guests about the donation in lieu of favors and how since FI and I are such big animal lovers she thought it was a really cute idea we could use if we wanted..  I immediately thought of this board and the reaction that suggestion was likely to get.  
    FWIW, I am not planning on doing favors, unless I have some extra $$ at the end, then I will probably do some kind of candy/chocolate thing.
  • Yeah, I'd skip them.  Not everyone's a coffee drinker and to me, fortune cookies are only fun for a sec. It could be really interesting to do your own funny fortunes but if it's too expensive, you're not really missing out on anything anyway.
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  • I will always and forever vote for cookies. Can you buy a sample and taste it to make sure its not disgusting? What about if you contact a local chinese food restaurant and find out how much they would charge you to buy x amt? I had this incredibly fresh fortune cookie the other day that was absolutely to die for, and I want another, so I choose fortune cookie.
  • Technically, they're a new tradition, not an old, so maybe they won't notice. :D
  • Nebb, I'm buying them off E-bay, and the seller has almost 2000 positive reviews about their freshness, so I'm just trusting that. FI asked about getting some from our local Chinese shop, but they weren't real keen on the idea.

    Haha, really Amoro? My mom, 25 years ago, did those nasty Jordan almonds!
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  • OOooh... right.  I forgot about that.  I had some at a wedding that were in little porcelain swan figurines.
  • Good deal, then I'd go for the cheaper option. 
  • Fortune cookies! Fortune cookies! Fortune cookies!!! Do it.
  • Also, it makes me feel tremendously old to know that your mother got married when I was five.  Thanks for that.
  • Deer Jerky!

    Kidding, unless you have some, then send to me please!

    I'd just do without favors and put towards something else.

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  • I love jordan almonds.
  • mwhitson14mwhitson14 member
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    Lol Amoro! Sorry! She was very young, two weeks past graduation. And had me two years later.

    Nebb, I'm leaning towards the cookies, especially since I just figured up the total for the coffee. . .

    Ang, no deer jerky yet! FI has some snack sticks, and some tenderloin, but he has only shot one deer this year, the slacker.
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  • I think that people either love or hate coffee so I would be afraid to use that if I was you.  I personally love it when I go to a wedding and they have edible favors.  Even something little like a small box of chocolate kisses.  I know a lot of people say that guests don't care about favors and many leave theirs behind, but we did candy in a box (to go along with our fall theme) and there was not one left behind.  I also got a lot of compliments.  So, like you said, if you end up not having money for it, I would say don't do them, but you can do something very small and inexpensive so if there is a little money and you have time to put them together, I would say to go for it.
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  • I said coffee because I love coffee and it seems like it would tie in with your centerpieces. Sometimes I think fortune cookies taste stale. How big are the coffee bags? Would it work if you gave one to each couple/ single person? I guess another thing to think of would be if the coffee was whole or already ground, because some people might not have a coffee grinder but ground coffee might lose its flavor faster. If you go with the cookies, try to order a sample so you can taste it before you order a whole bunch.
  • iamjoesgurl, it's funny that you said the kisses because TK is tempting me with their on sale Hershey kisses right now. . .

    dmb, if I did the coffee it would definitely be per couple I'm thinking. 75 invites, I'd buy 75 bags, at $1.50 a bag, $112! Eek.
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  • What if you did the kisses with little messages on the paper? I have no idea how much that would cost, but the coffee seems expensive for favors if not everyone would want it. 
  • Fortune Cookies.

    Not everyone likes coffee, nor does everyone have a coffee grinder. Everyone loves fortune cookies. If they say they dont, theyre lying.
  • Haha Nebb :)
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  • I only speak the truth, and you know that because I openly love fortune cookies!
  • They are pretty awesome. . .
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