Customs for a ceremony reader?

Norms Angel Forever

My girlfriend is doing a reading during our ceremony, she is basically an honourary bridesmaid, she's been so helpful throughout the process thus far and I know she's going to be helping with pre parties as well! Should she be at the rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner? In which case should she be presented with a gift as well?

baystateapple

I would invite her to the rehearsal, since she's going to be a part of your ceremony.  It would be nice if you bought her a gift, too, since she's been that big a part of your wedding planning process.

Judith233

If she can be at the rehearsal I would have her there.  That way she can do a read through in the ceremony location and know how loud to speak (mic or no mic, etc).  And also so she knows how long into the cermony the reading is in addition to where.

If she's at the rehearsal, being invited to the rehearsal dinner is a must.  Even if she can't make the rehearsal she should still be invited to the dinner.

And a gift of some kind is appropriate. 

So in short, the answer to all of your questions is yes.,

Kate61487

ditto Judith.  the rehearsal will probably be pretty beneficial to her so she knows when to go up for the reading, and so the officiant knows who she is, so he/she can nod at her or whatev when it's her turn (I've seen this a LOT at weddings/funerals bc people forget when to go)