Since I'm in a venting kind of mood...

jajph1974

Since the wedding, the "so when are you going to have the baby" and "you guys better get to work on making that baby" comments are REALLY starting to get to me.

Everyone making these comments are people that we're very close to and know that I have fertility problems. We've been trying for almost two years. Do they think the ring on my finger made my fertility issues magically disappear?

I just want to throat punch them, but instead I put on my best fake smile and say "Yes, we're still trying"

nda_roxybabe

That sucks.
Just tell them some TMI "baby making" stories..

JessAndTrav

I like roxy's solution!

jajph1974

lol .... I hadn't considered that!  Something along the lines of "you mean I can't get pregnant doing it in the butt?"

jasmineh7777

That is so annoying. My FIL's do this all the time. I have explained repetitively that 1) We don't want kids 2) I probably can't have them anyway  and 3) We wouldn't be trying to have kids when we are both in school and paying off student loans.
Maybe next time say, "Yes. We have tried every sexual position, but no luck yet. Any suggestions?" That might shut them up.

jasmineh7777

We are on the same page Roxy!

smokeybailey

I have people ask me constantly when I am getting married.  They remind me that my clock is ticking.

Let me be a childless spinster, thankyouverymuch.

ricksang

Tell them you hate children. That is what we do.

jajph1974

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-venting-kind-of-mood?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f7d60420-05a8-4cf4-9ac0-2e327077a79fPost:8ba9443d-fdd4-412c-b27b-cb406e8b5b88">Re: Since I'm in a venting kind of mood...</a>:
[QUOTE]I have people ask me constantly when I am getting married.  They remind me that my clock is ticking. Let me be a childless spinster, thankyouverymuch.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

smokey - you're too hot to be a spinster

jajph1974

I wish I could Ricks. all of the people making these comments know that we've been trying ... which pisses me off even more. It's a sore spot, you know?

pinkpinot

Off subject - Roxy your bf is super cute!

I think throat punches are definitely in order

ricksang

Uggh, well it works for us.

Roxy's BF is cute, even if he does think fruit is pizza ;P

abbalish

Ever since we got married in May I've been getting the same questions, from people I'm not even close to!  It's like, well, I have NO idea if or when we'll have a kid, but trust me, when we know you'll be the first person I tell.

The worst part is, people constantly asking me makes me constantly think about whether or not I want one.  Seriously.  Constantly.  Ugh.

shellydiane820

I can hire a hit man.

smokeybailey

Well, I guess I am not a spinster since I live with my BF.  I can't wait to announce that we are common law married.  I am going to send everyone I know a case of Pabst Blue Ribbon with the announcement:

Accordin' to the law, looks like we is hitched!
Mark is puttin' the still up in the bathroom so come by for some 'shine and ol' blue.
We're lookin' for some great auto parts and old furniture to keep in the yard so drive through the alley on yer way here.
Oh, and we ain't even cousins!

jajph1974

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-venting-kind-of-mood?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f7d60420-05a8-4cf4-9ac0-2e327077a79fPost:31ab6f1c-25b5-4bbf-b828-257d9c0cf48a">Re: Since I'm in a venting kind of mood...</a>:
[QUOTE]I can hire a hit man.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

How much?

katiewhompus

Amen to that. Dh and I have only been trying for 4 months but its already getting old hearing people say "So why aren't you pregnant yet" "um, we're trying and its not working, thanks for reminding me of that fact jackass".

shellydiane820

For you???  Consider it a favor

jajph1974

Yup Katie, It's just going to get worse.

Tim said that every time I get my period he feels like a failure. That almost broke my heart.

I hope everything works out for you both .... lots of baby dust to you!

jajph1974

shelly - LOVE your new siggy pic. Absolutely beautiful

katiewhompus

Oh poor Tim
Scott is already asking if he needs to go get tested (he's 36). I keep telling him we just need to be patient. I was on birth control for 3 years and just quit in September, and the first two months we weren't really "trying" (charting, etc).

Here's to baby dust for the two of us