Greenback Shower

amhill87

My cousin and his FI are having a Jack and Jill Greenback Shower, the weekend before my FI and I's wedding.  Normally this would not be as big of a deal to give but we are already strapped for cash due to our wedding being the following weekend and I have tried to find a registry online and there is none.  And my mom is guilt tripping me because my aunt is helping with my shower...the weekend before theirs.  What should I do?

crash2729

Don't go and give them a gift you can afford at their wedding, 

What is a greenback shower? 

midgetthemighty

Bring monopoly over to play with them!

dumdumfroggie

Ugh, tacky.  Don't go.  You're under no obligation to do so.  Or do as Midge said and bring Monopoly money.

baystateapple

I would decline.  I realize that it is family, however, what they are doing is horrifically tacky and if you can't afford a gift, you shouldn't feel obligated to give one.

Decline the party and say something like "I'm sorry, but with our wedding coming up the week after we are going to be really busy and can't attend!"  Don't even bring money up.  Give them a gift (of money, if you want) at their wedding and call it a day.

redheadfsu

Your cousin is being rude by asking for cash. I would decline the shower (is isn't even a real shower) and not give them money. And for a wedding gift give them something monogrammed so they can't return it for cash.

SweetTea87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_greenback-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f8b2c9a4-fa8e-4b87-bf33-d59cca36b0dfPost:715d69d5-772b-46bb-b329-d2436f46a343">Re: Greenback Shower</a>:
[QUOTE]Your cousin is being rude by asking for cash. I would decline the shower (is isn't even a real shower) and not give them money.<strong> And for a wedding gift give them something monogrammed so they can't return it for cash</strong>.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

That's hilariously awesome. 

Squishy'sGal

It's a money shower. "greenback" is another name for cash, dinero, moolah, etc.

hoffse

What is this, greenback shower day?  This is like the fourth post.  Crazy.  And rude.

Squishy'sGal

First of all it is beyond tacky that a bride would throw herself a shower. It is even more tacky to ask for "cash only". But if you have to give a gift here's what I'd do:

Since your wedding shower is before hers, see what she gives you then, while I think money showers are extremely tacky, give her the cash equivalent of what you get from her (if you get a $20 blender, give her $20). You can always give her a bigger gift at her wedding later based on what, if anything she gives you at your wedding (if she hands you an envelope with $100 in it, you give her $100 at her wedding).

I hope that made sense.

Of course you can always call her up and suggest that you both forgo exchanging gifts since you both are paying for expensive weddings. I don't see how that's any more tack than what she's doing.

MyNameIsNot

I would skip the shower.  

If your mother says anything, tell her that you are busy and change the subject.  If she tries to guilt you about a gift, tell her that you are strapped and that you would feel horrible if someone felt pressured to get you a gift when they were in the same situation.  

MNVegas

I find greenback showers offensive and would not attend.

StephBeanWed61502

I'd give them pet frogs.  Frogs have green backs, yes?

sweetcanadian1979

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_greenback-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f8b2c9a4-fa8e-4b87-bf33-d59cca36b0dfPost:a89c663f-62d9-426a-a20b-d91e3695ecd9">Re: Greenback Shower</a>:
[QUOTE]I find greenback showers offensive and would not attend.
Posted by MNVegas[/QUOTE]

<div>I thought the purpose was for gifts. What fun would this be? What do they do during their time? Makes no sense to me. I wouldn't go either. </div>

amhill87

And from what I hear they are inviting almost everyone from the wedding.

Klittlez05

I dont understand what is so "horrifically" bad about a greenback. If you really think about it, when someone registers, you are still asking for something just indirectly. So i dont understand how someone says " oh i'm strapped for cash so I cant go". But a registry magically makes you unstrapped for cash??

Just a thought...