I'm not sure what's right in this situation. I'm the MOH and I'm throwing the shower. I am footing the majority of the bill and I have no problem with that. The shower will be catered by the bride's favorite restuarant - which is not an expensive one. I am asking the bridesmaids (there are six) to split the cost of the food between them.
My question is, three of the bridesmaids (all three are cousins of the bride) live OOT and will not be at the shower. Is it ok to still ask them to help pay for the food?
I am also planning the bachelorette party for when they come to town, so they won't miss out on all the fun.