Save the Dates & Guest

MrsMack10612

A poston Budget Weddings made me wonder...

Should I include and Guest on STDs for those guests I know are single, will be getting a +1 but I don't know who that +1 is?  Or do I just address it to the guest and not worry about the +1 issue until invites go out?

achiduck

I wouldn't worry about putting a guest on the STDs right now. Closer to the time the invites go out some of those people may be in relationship and you should get the name of their SO to include on the invite before putting "and guest."

froggatt.clare

Just address the save the date to the single guest, and worry about +1 later.  Their relationship status may change in the mean time, so you don't want to address it to Sally and her boyfriend John now if Sally is with Joe when the invites go out.

MeganG12345

If the guest is single, I don't think you need to worry about +1s on save the dates. 

MyUserName1

I would definitely not write the & Guests on Save the Dates.

Down the road you might end up wanting to add to your current guest list and need to cut a few & Guests, you want to allow that possibility.

I only wrote & Guest on two invitations, both of which were people traveling from OOT who wouldn't know a ton of people at the wedding.  I wanted to give them time to plan travel WITH a guest.

MrsMack10612

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_save-dates-guest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:fa4e9cbf-f816-45b2-9eb3-cbf2b4518c7dPost:60419bd6-8e8c-4250-ab9f-ec9b6a620c7b">Re: Save the Dates & Guest</a>:
[QUOTE]I would definitely not write the & Guests on Save the Dates. <strong>Down the road you might end up wanting to add to your current guest list and need to cut a few & Guests, you want to allow that possibility</strong>. I only wrote & Guest on two invitations, both of which were people traveling from OOT who wouldn't know a ton of people at the wedding.  I wanted to give them time to plan travel WITH a guest.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

We've actually already finalized our guest list.

I also don't plan on writing "and Guest".  I will be finding out the names of the guest.

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_save-dates-guest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fa4e9cbf-f816-45b2-9eb3-cbf2b4518c7dPost:09e20231-f427-41ca-b7e7-90cf2d6ddfdd">Re: Save the Dates & Guest</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Save the Dates & Guest : We've actually already finalized our guest list. I also don't plan on writing "and Guest".  I will be finding out the names of the guest.
Posted by kjhowd[/QUOTE]

Firstly, you are ten months out.  That is plenty of time for your guest list to change in small ways.  You could easily make some new friends that you want to add to the list.

Secondly, people who are completely single now will not know who they are bringing to your wedding in 10 months.  There's no need to try to find out names.

chesterfield

If the guest is travelling, I think it's important for him/her to know ASAP
that they can bring someone.  So I agree with MyUserName, I put +1 on the
STD for everyone who was from OOT. 

MrsMack10612

I can appreciate the possibility that it might change...but no.

First - our parents have been asked and answered that they have no one to add.  In some cases they (the parents) weren't even given the option of inviting anyone.

Second - the list is our nearest and dearest friends/family.  Those groups of people have not changed in the last 10+ years and I the odds of it changing in the next 10 months are pretty slim.

Thanks.

Edited to add "not"