No lingerie gifts?

rocelleb

Hi! I'm getting married in May and our family and bridal party are throwing us a couple of co-ed wedding showers.  I really don't want to get a ton of lingerie because I don't normally wear it, and if I am going to wear it, I'd rather find something that I feel comfortable in.  Is there a tactful way to indicate that on our shower invites?  We're already including our honeymoon registry website on there....your thoughts would be great! Thanks!

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]Hi! I'm getting married in May and our family and bridal party are throwing us a couple of co-ed wedding showers.  I really don't want to get a ton of lingerie because I don't normally wear it, and if I am going to wear it, I'd rather find something that I feel comfortable in.  Is there a tactful way to indicate that on our shower invites?  We're already including our honeymoon registry website on there....your thoughts would be great! Thanks!
Posted by rocelleb[/QUOTE]
Just don't register for lingerie? I don't think people tend to get lingerie unless they have a lingerie shower. Regsiter where you want stuff from (not honeymoon) and hope thats where people get your gifts from.
Basically, there is no tactful way to say "no lingerie" on an invite.

mrsamyjones

ooo you're probably going to be blasted for your honeymoon registry, however if you talk to whoever is throwing your shower (I'm assuming you know that you can't throw your own shower) and maybe they can find invites with a kitchen theme or something along those lines that can help steer people in the right direction.

brookelynpaisley

There's no tactful way to mention gifts, period. Even if it's specifically asking to NOT receive something in particular. I agree with Roxy that people won't buy you lingerie. I got one piece at my shower (from my mom - kinda weird), and that's it. Unless someone were to throw you some kind of naughty shower (which you could decline), most people aren't going to give you something that private.

nda_roxybabe

To much dismay, I'd prefer no lingerie.
Slutty sleepwear is not my thing, I'd prefer to wear nothing but my ring.
La perla may be the best but I prefer you pay for my sex fest.

ok, ok, I suck at rhyming but yea, no tactful way to go about it.

shellydiane820

Usually lingerie is given at a bachelorette party, and most of the time its silly underwear.  I think if you put something in the invite or on your website, people will think your nuts.

brookelynpaisley

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[QUOTE]To much dismay, I'd prefer no lingerie. Slutty sleepwear is not my thing, I'd prefer to wear nothing but my ring. La perla may be the best but I prefer you pay for my sex fest. ok, ok, I suck at rhyming but yea, no tactful way to go about it.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

A for effort, Roxy. I think Fish would give it a thumbs up.

It is kinda ironic, OP, that you want people to pay for you to go screw on a beach somewhere, but not buy you the screw-wear.

nda_roxybabe

I'll take the A for effort. My brother got all the awesome poet/ rhyming skills and  I got stuck with...other stuff.

brookelynpaisley

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[QUOTE]I'll take the A for effort. My brother got all the awesome poet/ rhyming skills and  I got stuck with...other stuff.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Like boobs. You win. :)

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No lingerie gifts? : Like boobs. You win. :)
Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]
Yea! Take that brother!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Showers - people buying gifts off your registry and you opening them in front of them.

So... register for stuff you DO want?

JessAndTrav

I didn't get lingerie at my bridal shower. I don't think that's typically given at a regular bridal shower. Just a lingerie shower or the bachelorette party. I wouldn't worry about it.

cukimerrydoll

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[QUOTE]I didn't get lingerie at my bridal shower. I don't think that's typically given at a regular bridal shower. Just a lingerie shower or the bachelorette party. I wouldn't worry about it.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
That's the inclination I get too.  I'm pretty sure I'll get some at my bachlorette, but my BMs are mature enough to know what I like and what I would use.

ZRex

This is slightly off-topic, but when my cousin got married, her MOH sent invites for her shower that said, "Bride is registered at Pottery Barn and wears a 34B."  In print.  On the actual invite.  

amagwire

All the bridal showers I've been to, lingerie was gifted.  I think it's pretty standard. There's really no tactful way to not ask for it, just hope that a gift receipt is included in your gift box. 

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]This is slightly off-topic, but when my cousin got married, her MOH sent invites for her shower that said, "Bride is registered at Pottery Barn and wears a 34B."  In print.  On the actual invite.  
Posted by ZRex[/QUOTE]


NOO!!!!  I would have been so humilated..

FWIW - I did not receive any lingerie for my shower.  Although I really thought my MIL would have bought some.    She was the type who made it easy for her son to get lucky by giving him cases of condoms for xmas and letting girlfriends spend the night during high school.

opalsky007

Yeah, there's really not a tactful way to mention gifts at all. Hopefully people will purchase things you've registered for, and maybe your shower hostess can put together a themed event to encourage people to bring certain items.

I must be the odd one out here. My shower was a couple of days before our OOT wedding and my gifts were:
-2 VS gift cards
-2 VS thongs (in the wrong size, from my MIL, and without a gift receipt!)
-A page-a-day sex position calendar
-A set of salt and pepper shakers.

At least I didn't have trouble traveling with any of it :-\

ac_in_dc

Do folks give lingerie even at a co-ed shower? I would think that they wouldn't...

PPs are right though, there's not way to tactfully say "no lingerie"...and I think a honeymoon registry is in poor taste (too close to asking for cash). But there's definitely a lack of consensus on the HM registry thing (and you didn't ask for advice on this, so I should probably just leave well enough alone).

ac_in_dc

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[QUOTE]Yeah, there's really not a tactful way to mention gifts at all. Hopefully people will purchase things you've registered for, and maybe your shower hostess can put together a themed event to encourage people to bring certain items. I must be the odd one out here. My shower was a couple of days before our OOT wedding and my gifts were: -2 VS gift cards -2 VS thongs (in the wrong size, from my MIL, and without a gift receipt!) -A page-a-day sex position calendar -A set of salt and pepper shakers. At least I didn't have trouble traveling with any of it :-\
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

LOL. I don't even want to go in to the visuals this gives me.

btrflykate1230

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[QUOTE]This is slightly off-topic, but when my cousin got married, her MOH sent invites for her shower that said, "Bride is registered at Pottery Barn and wears a 34B."  In print.  On the actual invite.  
Posted by ZRex[/QUOTE]

Whoa. Talk about more than I want to know about any bride!

rocelleb

Hmm...I always thought that a honeymoon registry was a creative way to NOT ask for cash.  We already own a home and have more than enough towels and kitchen appliances, so like people said, why bother registering for stuff we don't want?  We do have smaller registries at physical stores for people who prefer the traditional route.  Thanks for the feedback on the lingerie!