How should I word this?

ktyd8

So far I have had several people ask me if shorts and beach attire would be okay to wear to my wedding. While I don't want to be a bridezilla and the wedding is on the beach, I want people to take it as seriously as they would a wedding in a church. For some reason people aren't realizing that. It's mostly family asking these questions. I want to put something on my wedding website to kind of let guests know that this kind of clothing is not okay. I know at the end of the day I probably won't care but I just feel like they think beach wedding=super casual and not as serious as a church wedding. Any suggestions on how to do this without being bridezilla?

ashstwrt

Hmm...if you have like a "guest information" section, you could say something like "semi formal attire please." That would imply khakis and a dress shirt for guys and a dress or skirt for girls.

arobertson62282

This is always tricky, but I agree, have a place for Wedding related details on your website with a section on attire. For me, I specified semi-formal attire (some people won't know what this means). You may even spell it out for them: Ladies, sundresses - Men, slacks and button down shirts. Just be sure that you define your expectations - if you set them appropriately with your family members, they can spread the word.

elisab81

i posted it on my website under guest info or something like that! "I basically said that the evening would be semi formal attire, so no tuxedos required, but lets try to leave the flip flops and sundresses at home that night "i know its not exactly how you need yours but thats the best i've got!! HTH!

LBM7189

I agree- post it in your website and spread it by word of mouth to let people know.  Of course you will have some that don't get the message, but those are the same people who may not come dressed properly if you were getting married in a church as well.  Every family has 1!!  Don't be disappointed though if you have 1 or 2 that show up super casual- all eyes are on you anyway!

alliegator8

For our wedding, we have a dress code. It is on our website for everyone to see. It states something to the affect of we ask that you do not wear anything formal: suit, tie, gown. Then it lists acceptable options: khaki pants, hawaiian or collared shirts, sun dresses, shirts, etc. Please no shorts. When we send out our invites, we are making up a card with general information to include in the packet. The requested dress attire will be on there. I don't feel the least bit bad about telling people about hte dress code. We're having a small wedding, and know everyone well enough that it won't bother them. Most of the people I have talkedt about it have been very understanding and don't mind it. Just lay down the law now!

ktyd8

thanks ladies!!