Temporarily wheelchair bound

mrsamyjones

Ok so one of my BMs informed me a few weeks ago, that due to insurance issues, she may have to have her (very intensive) spinal surgery moved up to ASAP. So she may (most definitely) placed on bed rest for up to 6 months after her surgery. I totally understand this since I have gone through this process with her before and I totally understand her situation. My wedding is in 5 months and I perfectly understand that she may need to be in a wheelchair during the ceremony. We've talked a little about it and she's still planning on participating in the ceremony whether she's in the wheelchair or walking (which is unlikely). We're just trying to get some imput on what would be the most practical way for her to go down the aisle since the aisle will be on grass (difficult to push a wheelchair down). Should she just be seated in the front row already? Should one of the groomsman come back down the aisle again to push her? We just dont really know what would be the best way to do this...suggestions?

nightmare_of_beauty

hmm...maybe wait till closer to time and see what she's most comfortable with. I have a friend that's in a wheelchair that can power herself through grass like it's nothing. Maybe after the few months she'll be use to it and be comfortable pushing herself.
Just give her all your love and support, she'll let you know what she's comfortable with.

thesuninherhead

I second the above advice- wait for awhile and re-assess where her health/abilities are. It may be that she'll need someone to wheel her down, in which case you could arrange for someone to do this (I like the idea of one of the groomsmen doing it, but it really depends what she's comfortable with), or she may be able to wheel herself down. Or, given that the whole situation is a 'may', she may not have the surgery until later on, in which case she'll presumably be ok to make it down by herself. At this stage, I wouldn't be worrying about the logistics of your wedding and the chair too much, save knowing that it's a possibility that will be fine to be incorporated.

danieliza1127

It sounds like there is still the possibility that she'll be stuck in bed and not able to attend at all, or able to attend in a wheelchair.  At this point, it's way too soon to be worrying about such a minor detail as to how to get her down the aisle.  You could decide that the day of and it would still be fine. 

Just have her already seated in the front row or have a GM wheel her down.  They can test out her wheelchair in the grass before the guests arrive to see if it will work or not.

TheSaltyPeanut

Definitely do what SHE most feels comfortable with.

Pirata13

I agree with PPs, wait and see what she is able to do and comfortable with. If she needs pushed, it'd be nice to have a groomsmen push her.

And for the record, because I see it here all the time and it drives me bonkers, it's INPUT, not imput.

squirrly

I would wait a little while.  Assuming that she is there in a wheelchair and does need assistance getting down the aisle, you should make sure the groomsman is comfortable pushing the chair (some people get nervous about that sort of thing).  Also, you would want him to practice.  Stopping short and knocking her out the chair would be a very bad thing.