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Knottie56296520

My boss is getting married, and invited the office to a post-wedding and post-reception celebration at a restaurant. We're not invited to the actual wedding/reception, though, as it's a small event just for family and very close friends.  I've never been to a post-wedding party when I wasn't at the ceremony and reception, as well. What should I expect? Should I bring a gift? Should I have money to pay for drinks? Any insight would be appreciated!

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I think I would decline and send a nice card, bc imo, it seems like they are just asking for a gift. If they can afford to invite to the post wedding events, why not the actual wedding as well? It doesn't make sense to me bc obviously money isn't the issue if they can afford to have all these events.

Catwoman708

If everyone in the office declines, then it will be kind of insulting to the boss. 

Maybe ask around to see if others plan on going, and if they might be interested in a group present.  If not, I think a small token gift is sufficient if you attend the after party dinner.  I always take enough money to pay for myself, just in case, but if they are inviting you to dinner, then they should be the ones picking up the tab, whether drinks are included or not. 

MrsLibrarian

I would bring money just in case.  While one would like to assume people will pay for food and drinks at an event they are hosting, I usually end up bringing money just in case that doesn't happen.

As for gifts, I would get them something.  Not having registry information on an invitation is proper etiquette, but it doesn't mean that they are not registered.  Check out popular registries such as Target and Bed, Bath and Beyond to see if they are indeed registered.  Or as PP suggested, go in on an office gift.