Please, someone, tell me if I'm overreacting and being stubborn, or if I'm being reasonable. I need some perspective here:
I'm planning to have a very small informal wedding on a budget, 50 people or less. I got a call today from my cousin's 12 year old daughter saying she's so excited to be a flower girl for the wedding, she can't wait, she's always wanted to come to Alaska (where I live) and she's excited about her first plane ride. Turns out my grandmother who is coming told my aunt, uncle, and cousin's daughter they're also invited.
Problem is, I wasn't going to invite the aunt, uncle or cousin's daughter and I'm not planning on having a flower girl at all. I haven't seen them in 10 years and we're not close. We don't call on birthdays or Christmas or anything like that. They haven't come to visit for 10 years and I feel like they're using my wedding as an excuse to take a vacation...am I being out of line? I honestly didn't even think of inviting them, but now I feel obligated to so I don't seem like a diva.
What do you guys think? How do I go about standing my ground?