Should FILs Send Rehearsal Dinner Invitations?

rochala2

Hi Ladies,

My question is regarding the rehearsal dinner invitations. Since my FILs are officially hosting the dinner, should they be the ones to send out the invites? I didn't see any articles about it on TK. I was the MOH in my best friend's wedding this summer and her MIL sent out an invite for theirs. 

If FILs are not supposed to send them, then I assume I am supposed to, right?

Many thanks in advance!

ootmother2

If the FILs are hosting the rehearsal dinner, they send the invites.

Am I missing something here?  Why would they not be the ones?

laurenclaire1386

I would assume since it's the groom's parents hosting the dinner, that they would be the ones to send out invites.

FWIW, we didn't send out invitations to ours. We just let our bridal party know what time they needed to be at the rehearsal, and then told them there would be dinner/drinks at x locaton after the rehearsal.

ootmother2

I must be hanging out with some stuck up old farts then

MelissaAnne88

We just sent out an evite - and I did it (even though FILs are "hosting") because I know the site and I had basically everyone's email addresses.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Ask them about it. My in-laws hosted, but they wanted us to send the invitations since they "didn't know everyone" so obviously that makes it impossible to get an RSVP. *sigh* I had them printed up and had people RSVP to my then-FI.

We also invited OOT guests, so we had about 35+ people there, making invitations and real RSVPs pretty neessary.

Edit: we listed his parents as the hosts.

TaraK22

I actually just saw the one FMIL sent out (addressed to my parents, she didn't send one to me lol). This was something she really wanted to do - they're not super formal/fancy, and I wouldn't have thought twice if she wanted to just do it by word of mouth. however, FMIL really wanted to send them, and she and FFIL are hosting, so whatever they want was obv fine with me!

Kristin789

Absolutely the groom's parents send RD invitations.
The RD is the only thing the groom's parents host in the entire weekend of wedding activities, and of course they should send the invitations out.

mica178

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_should-fils-send-rehearsal-dinner-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fcee7bdd-12f5-408e-9519-16b2211f599fPost:5f77faa1-7d58-4a99-94ea-dbeae27ad1c6">Re: Should FILs Send Rehearsal Dinner Invitations?</a>:
[QUOTE]I must be hanging out with some stuck up old farts then
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

Nah, you just hang out with people who do things the right way.  :)

My ILs sent the RD invitations.

mrjcre2011

My FIL's are also hosting ours, and when the time gets closer, we will provide them with a guest list, and yes, they will send out invitations. Our wedding has a pretty formal tone to it, though, and we're keeping that going with a nice dinner after the rehearsal, so it's appropriate. E-vites and word of mouth also work just fine, particularly if it's more casual. I was invited via facebook once.