Wedding date etiquette

ddehors

Do you think it is bad etiguette for my fiance and I to plan a wedding for a few months after another family member's wedding? Should we really have to wait another year to get married? Please let me know what you think. 

katiewhompus

I think a few months is fine. Just take into consideration the amount of guests overlapping and give time for them to be able to afford (in the form of travel, etc) both weddings.
I do not think it's necessary to wait an entire year before getting married. By then someone else in the family may have set another date!

sucrets4

Oh god, no.  They get a day, perhaps a weekend.  A few months is fine.

The only thing that would make it somewhat annoying is if you had a lot of shared family that lived out of town.

emarston1

Don't put it off for a year.  Something will always come up (another wedding, pregnancy, babies, etc.)  You can't put your life on hold due to someone else's plans.

tenofcups4me

I think a few months is fine under most circumstances. The only time I might question it is if most of the overlapping family has to travel out of town for both weddings -- then I'd try to give 6 months or so in between. But if you're in the same town as family, or if family only has to travel to one of the weddings, I'd think about 3 months in between would be fine. Personally I wouldn't want to plan them any closer.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Nope, that's fine. My childhood best friend is getting married this September and her younger sister is getting married in a few weeks - so 3 months apart.

riverjib

A few months is fine. A few weeks is tough. I'm not validating the concerns of a few divas who have posted here that they're annoyed that someone else is "stealing their thunder." It's just nice to space out major events so that your family doesn't have to make major plans for multiple events (including gifts!) too close together.

Even then, I wouldn't worry too much as long as it's not back-to-back weekends. Life is hectic. They'll be happy to celebrate with you!

chicadelpadre

I'm getting married April 16, 2011 and a cousin of mine who lives locally is getting married about 3 weeks after me, and another cousin who lives across the country is getting married about 2 weeks after that. (None of us really knew when the others were getting married until we'd all set dates)

That said, I'm not worried at all about over lap or anyone "stealing thunder." Those who are important enough to each of us will find a way to make something work I'm sure.

thesuninherhead

Totally fine. 

My BIL got married a few months after our wedding, and that didn't even come onto our radar. Even if they'd chosen a closer date, we wouldn't have thought twice about it. We love them and were really happy for them- and our weddings were very different so it's not as though there was any feelings of competition there. Hopefully your family feels the same way.