Shower thank you notes

maureen1226

I was hoping someone could fill me in on thank you note etiquette.

I just had my shower this weekend and was wondering if it is improper to use the thank you cards that have both my fiance's and my name on them. Also, do I sign it just from me or both of us?

Thanks!`

Beachy730

Were most of your cards addressed to just you, or you and your FI?  To me showers are just for the bride, even though everything is bought for the couple.  I always address shower cards only to the bride, and at my shower I was the only one who signed the TY cards.  So my advice would be to get some general TY cards and sign them just from you.

mgietler76

I would use ones with both names and both signatures, as people are giving gifts to be used by the "couple" even though the shower was thrown for just you.

banana468

If the notes have just your first names on them it's not as big a deal.  But if they say Jane and Joe Smith on them then you can't use them until you're married.

In the meantime, just get some nice notecards.

laurenclaire1386

I just bought some pretty stationary from Wal Mart and signed only my name. I did mention FI in the cards, but his name wasn't signed to them. In retrospect, I guess I might've screwed that up. I don't really know the answer.

TheCranberry

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-thank-notes-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fd816523-69f9-4e9e-a72a-b43d67200bc6Post:ab5a7e44-f2cd-4d92-a337-a1d682b70b88">Re: Shower thank you notes</a>:
[QUOTE]I would use ones with both names and both signatures, as people are giving gifts to be used by the "couple" even though the shower was thrown for just you.
Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]

Does it matter what the gift is?  I guess lingerie would still be enjoyed by both.  :)  Haha. 

When I've gotten the bride a more "personal" gift (lingerie or spa gift cert) the thank you card came from her, but when I got something off the registry it came from both.  Don't know if the brides took the type of gift into account or if it was just a coincidence.

laurenclaire1386

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-thank-notes-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fd816523-69f9-4e9e-a72a-b43d67200bc6Post:1cd8ab78-28ef-4092-8a68-2195b202d5bc">Re: Shower thank you notes</a>:
[QUOTE]Technically the person writing the note signs the note.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
Thanks. That was my reasoning. If Banana says it's right, it's right :)

mica178

You shouldn't sign for people other than yourself.  So if you wrote the note, you shouldn't sign it "FI and maureen."  What LC did was correct.  As the gift was for both of you, you can mention FI's name in the body of the thank you, but just sign it from yourself.

If FI wants his name at the bottom of the TY, he needs to sigh it himself and be involved in the construction of the TY wording.

maureen1226

The cards have both our first names on them. Do you think it's still okay to sign it only from me?

tenofcups4me

For the shower, I wrote all the notes, mentioned him, and signed only my name since it was a shower for me, not us (even though he attended). Personally, I would not use cards that have both names on them.

For the wedding, we each wrote the notes to our own family and friends, and both signed both names.

fyrefairie

Some of my shower gifts were clearly for me (spa gift card, perfumes and lotions) and some were for us (off our registry) so for the ones that were just for me I only signed my name and the others I signed both of us.