Wedding Announcement

fsuturtle5

I want to announce my wedding in my local newspaper in the town I grew up in, but I don't want to send any local invitations.  My wedding is being held in the town I live in now, which is about 2 hours from my hometown.  Is it ok to annouce the wedding in the local paper and say no local invitations will be sent with an rsvp to an email address if planning on attending.  I think if I try to send invitations to everyone I grew up with someone with undoubtly get left out and there feelings will be hurt.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]I want to announce my wedding in my local newspaper in the town I grew up in, but I don't want to send any local invitations.  My wedding is being held in the town I live in now, which is about 2 hours from my hometown.  Is it ok to annouce the wedding in the local paper and say no local invitations will be sent with an rsvp to an email address if planning on attending.  I think if I try to send invitations to everyone I grew up with someone with undoubtly get left out and there feelings will be hurt.
Posted by fsuturtle5[/QUOTE]

So you're just inviting anyone who reads the paper?  Is it a small town?

That sounds really impersonal and could be extremely expensive!! 

pumpkinpumpkin

Colour me confused.
It's like an open invitation? That is really really really NOT a good idea. Choose who you're going to invite and deal with it.

kikibaby

Why wouldn't you send invitations? 

EDIT: I just reread and saw that you're afraid someone will be left out if you send invites.  So... you're just going to invite the whole town instead? 

That's fine if you want, but you should still send personalized invites.

wadingmoose

I would send the invitations.  You need to pick who you want to attend and invite them, regardless of feelings.

AmoroAgain

Um, I think I get what you're saying.  If you want to send a wedding announcement, do it AFTER the wedding has happened.  That's normally what they are.  If you want an engagement announcement, then you don't have to mention anything about the wedding.  But, I'm thinking that the wedding announcement after the fact is the best way to go.

danieliza1127

You want to invite the whole town to your wedding?

Actual invitations are much more personal.  Just create a guest list of your closest friends and family and your FI's friends and family and go from there.  You don't have to invite everyone you ever went to school with or might have met once.

ohwhynot

Okay, I deleted my response from the repeat thread because this is where the action is, apparently, AND I think I figured out what you meant. 

I really think you need to send out invitations to the people you want to invite.  Start pulling together a list now - there is really no need to invite the entire town - anyone who reads that newspaper could rsvp! 

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]Um, I think I get what you're saying.  If you want to send a wedding announcement, do it AFTER the wedding has happened.  That's normally what they are.  If you want an engagement announcement, then you don't have to mention anything about the wedding.  But, I'm thinking that the wedding announcement after the fact is the best way to go.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

This is a good idea.

quotequeen

I believe that usually if somebody is putting an open invitation in the paper, it's because they are having a cake and punch type of reception for which they don't need an actual headcount and can accommodate whoever chooses to show up.  I have never heard of having an RSVP with this.

What kind of reception are you having?  Do you have any limitations with respect to venue capacity or budget?  You really never know who is going to show up if you do this.  Even if they did all RSVP (which they probably won't) what happens if it's a lot more people than you're anticipating?

skippylouwho

You can announce your engagement in the paper - it is not an invitation. it is an announcement. Most papers have forms they have you fill out that provide the necessary details:

Bride's name, parent's names
Groom's name, paren'ts name

Where you live, where you went to school (received a BS in Marketing from ....) where you work, when and where the wedding will be (August 1st at XXX in XXX) .

That is an announcement - it is not an invitation.

Following the wedding you can also announce that you are married. Both engagement and wedding announcements can include pictures, if your local paper will print them. Some print these types of announcements for free but now many charge for this.

For the wedding announcement, again typically most papers provide forms to fill out.

It will contain basically the same information as above except that it will state that the wedding took place on x date at xx in x city, state.

You may include the names of your bridal part, their relationship to you (sister of the bride, fraternity brother of the groom) etc. Some papers will print this detail, others will not.

In some papers you can include descriptions of your dress and flowers and the bridesmaids dresses and flower.  You can include your honeymoon destination.

Include where you reside (not the street address, just city/state).

ElleTR13

In my hometown, and the city I live in now, there are engagement announcements before the wedding and wedding announcements after. The date and location are usually listed in the engagement announcement(and the wedding). Many times a statement is also listed that says "Friends and family are invited to attend"....when I read that, I don't assume I'm invited even if I know the couple. I know I'm invited when I recieve the invitation in the mail.

danieliza1127

It's just so strange to me.  What if someone you really want to be there doesn't happen to see the paper the day your announcement runs?  Personally if I saw an announcement like that, I wouldn't attend.  If  you really want me to be there, you'll send me an invitation.