S/O: If you got flamed...

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]Well, I got mildly flamed for two things:  one, being married twice before.  I expected that, and I get it.  It's weird.  I know.  But other people were nice about it and I didn't feel run off or anything like that. I got flamed for coming across as an obnoxious parent.  I'm not, or at least I try very hard not to be, but upon reflection I could completely see how I'd come across that way.  So the flame didn't hurt - it made sense. Someone also just said that I "bugged" but I wasn't all that fond of that poster anyway, at least at that time.  I wasn't sure what I'd done to bug her, but whatever - not everyone will be your friend.  The other early flames were for jumping in too early and saying things too strongly.  I honestly think I could say the same things now and not get called out because people "know" me a bit better.  But I definitely came on too strong for a newb.  So I understand where the flames came from.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Why did you get flamed for being married twice before?

jayjoe

I've never been flamed. I've gotten into it with Batlet and P2 but that was a while ago.

L-Bride

I was called a "bad friend" because I talked about how my single friends were so focused on finding someone to marry and it bothered me. People jumped on saying that I was a crappy friend and that it was easy for me to say because I was engaged.

I came back because I'm not fazed if people who don't actually know me like me. I mean I would prefer people on here like me but if they don't, I'm pretty okay with that.

Bubbalub

I've gotten into it with people and watched a lot of flames happen. I just try to compartmentalize everything. There are things random strangers say on the interwebs, then there are things stupid people say at work, then there is the rest of my life that I actually care about which is where I tend to put most of my energy.

Plus, I kind of like arguing. Not my best quality, for sure, but my dad thinks I would have made a good lawyer.

mkrupar

I got flamed on WP a long time ago. I just kept lurking and posting. Everyone says they got flamed at some point and stuck around. You can't take what most people say to heart. Usually they're pointing something out in you that you haven't noticed before.

danieliza1127

mkrupar - were you posting as "1ofthosedays" the other day?

Jelenny

Because it's like Spiderman - everyone gets one

J/k

I guess it was EARLY in the planning process and I was excited and I know my second cousins are monsters.  People jumped on me about the whole kid/reception thing but some backed off when I said how terrible they can be.  Again you could only go off the info I gave you in the first post and well kids are coming we will just see how it pans out....

The advice is pretty good, and Fishy always kept me cracking up so I lurked a bit, occasionally put my two cents in and well I guess coming around more.

squeakyduck

I wanted to invite everyone from my church to the ceremony, but not the reception. Oops. 

It was really early in the planning process and I got way ahead of myself. 

I was hurt, but I got over it. Besides, this board is super entertaining. 

The Mel and Todd Show

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: If you got flamed... : google it It's true
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

This is all that google has produced for me.  I have been looking.  Tell us more, I find this intriguing.  Did this person name you specifically?  Because that would be CRAZY.

<a href="http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090725092208AAK0gtZ">http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090725092208AAK0gtZ</a>

soontobeschooley

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: If you got flamed... : Tell us a little about yourself and maybe we can take care of that. :)
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

I've been flamed on other boards when I first started out, just not on here.  I know better now. 

I was an idiot when I first started posting.  I had no idea what I was doing planning a wedding and thought I knew it all because I read an issue of Martha Stewart Weddings.

Y I Oughta

I was flamed for changing my SN the letting people know I changed it. Someone thought it was stupid of me to do this if I had a stalker that found me with the old account. They just assumed it was a stalker problem and I was flamed for it. I came back because the rest of the boards are kind of boring, and I need something to do during slow work days.

[Deleted User]

I don't think I have ever been flamed on here.

salt78

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[QUOTE]I don't think I have ever been flamed on here.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes you have. I flamed you the other day. I guess you didn't go back into the thread to read it. </div>

Birdie1483

I don't know if I was officially "flamed" like "Birdie I flame thee for xyz" but I got into it with some people when I was having a bad day once. It was about escort cards or assigned seating or something. I think FFF was skipped that week and by the next one people had forgotten about it. I came back because I had been posting for awhile and even though I still believed what I believed, I knew I had overreacted a bit over what other people were saying to me.

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: If you got flamed... : Yes you have. I flamed you the other day. I guess you didn't go back into the thread to read it. 
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I guess you also didn't see the two times this week I called you out for calling people brats when they weren't acting remotely bratty.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: If you got flamed... : Yes you have. I flamed you the other day. I guess you didn't go back into the thread to read it. 
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

I flamed you months ago (before I was married, I'm pretty sure) for complaining about how awful Georgia is and the city you live in, and the whole south in general, just because you're homesick for Cleveland. 

Lala threw some halfhearted flames my way in a thread where Banana and I didn't agree.  The OP's story didn't add up to me, and my attempt to call her on it wasn't taken well, probably because I was still too new.  Moose agreed with me in the thread and didn't get flamed a bit.  But, I really wasn't bothered by it at all. 

Some of the OLD regs on one of my locals that I mod attempted to flame me when I was made the mod, but I'd have had to care about their opinions for it to matter.  They're all gone now, though. 

And I've had people complain about me once or twice.  Apparently because of that orange bar over my head I'm not supposed to have an opinion (unless it's one that validates a whiny OP).  By now you all probably know THAT's just not how I roll. 

I've doled out WAY more flames than I've had aimed at me, though.  Plus, if I flame somebody, it's with BIG flames (bbyckes & the dress she peed on anybody?).  People come after me with matches, but that's it. 

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: If you got flamed... : This is all that google has produced for me.  I have been looking.  Tell us more, I find this intriguing.  Did this person name you specifically?  Because that would be CRAZY. <a href="http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090725092208AAK0gtZ" rel="nofollow">http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090725092208AAK0gtZ</a>
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

No, that's not the one. This was an actual civil action against the knot and certain individuals

kikibaby

Ah yes, the pee dress.  That was definitely one of those "you shouldn't tell people that!" moments. 

Capri/bbycks is a fairly well-liked poster over on the Nest these days.

ohwhynot

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[QUOTE]<strong>Ah yes, the pee dress.  That was definitely one of those "you shouldn't tell people that!" moments.</strong>  Capri/bbycks is a fairly well-liked poster over on the Nest these days.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

Who was it who got roasted for telling people her husband set his sack on her shoulders, or something like that?  Was that Nuggs? 

ogrady88

I've been flamed, one of the first times I posted on this board...but came back, why not?  It's fun to read and post on E occasionally.  I'm not to worried about whether some folks didn't agree with my viewpoint.  Overall, we probably agree on most things.

GeauxTigers17

I got flamed for giving "by the book" advice...albeit, advice that was clearly extremely unpopular!

I came back because I like reading the wedding threads. That, and none of my friends are really BSC, and I sort of enjoy it when an OP posts something that makes me think "there's no way, please tell me you're kidding."

golden1215

I'm super late to this post buut I got told whats what on my first ever post.  I wasnt flamed, but was def one of the chicks who was all "wow thanks for the advice ladies but you dont have to be so mean blah blah blah" and then I got flamed awhile back for my thoughts on breastfeeding.... whatev, cant agree w/ everyone all the time so just didnt log on for a few weeks then slowly came back.  too much fun on here to not ever come back.