Late Father of the Bride

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So, I'm working on programs. When I get to the section for family, do I put "late Domino's Dad" under father of the bride, or do I not list him and list him under the memorial section? On the one hand, if I list him under parents, I can do away with a memorial section (I'd like to just do grandparents and parents who have passed, but my mom's wanting aunts and uncles, and tips it over into overwhelming, if you ask me). On the other, he's not alive. So. He should go in the memorial section.

Avion22

I'm so sorry for your loss of your father.

I would recommend doing a memorial section of the program.  You can list people individually if you would like, or make a referrence to "loved ones who could not be with us today", whichever you are more comfortable with.  I think it could be weird to have a deceased parent listed with the living family members and bridal party members. 

No matter what you do, please ask the opinion of others in your family who will remember your father.  Your mother, perhaps, or your father's parents or siblings.  I guarantee you that your father's absence will be on their minds no matter what (especially if he passed away recently), and sometimes calling attention to his death can bring on unexpected feelings of grief at what they expect to be a happy event.   

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[QUOTE]I'm so sorry for your loss of your father. I would recommend doing a memorial section of the program.  You can list people individually if you would like, or make a referrence to "loved ones who could not be with us today", whichever you are more comfortable with.  I think it could be weird to have a deceased parent listed with the living family members and bridal party members.  No matter what you do, please ask the opinion of others in your family who will remember your father.  Your mother, perhaps, or your father's parents or siblings.  I guarantee you that your father's absence will be on their minds no matter what (especially if he passed away recently), and sometimes calling attention to his death can bring on unexpected feelings of grief at what they expect to be a happy event.   
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thanks, I appreciate your thoughts.</div><div>
</div><div>My father died last February, after we got engaged, so yes, it's fairly recent.. My Nana (his mom) knows I'll be remembering him with a candle, and FI will be wearing his cufflinks and I'll have his ring in my bouquet, but I will run it by her, as well. I also let my mom and FI's mom know (as there are grandfathers as well).</div><div>
</div><div>I have no problem listing the people I was close to (see below), but I'm afraid if even one more person is mentioned about being listed (an aunt/uncle on FI's side I didn't even know about, for example), I may just leave it without names, because the list is long. I'm torn, because I was truly close with my uncle and friend, but I may leave it at grandfathers and father or no names altogether, based on what FI's mom says.</div><div>
</div><div>Right now, it reads like this:</div><div>
</div><div><div style="color:#000000;font-family:arial;font-size:small;line-height:normal;"><div>Mr. Domino's Dad............Father of the Bride </div><div>Mr. Domino's Grandfather...........Grandfather of the Bride</div><div>Mr. Domino's Grandfather...Grandfather of the Bride</div><div>Mr. FI's Grandfather........Grandfather of the Groom </div><div>Mr. Domino's Uncle.............Uncle of the Bride </div><div>Mr. Domino's Close Friend...........Friend of the Bride</div><div>
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mlg78

Under "parents" on my program I have:

The late Megan's Dad

Mom & Stepdad LastName

nextrightthing

I think I would list your dad under parents as "the late Domino's dad."  Since your memorial section is getting overwhelming to you, is there another way you could recognize the people who would be listed?  For example, pictures in a denoted place at the reception?

misssunshine17

I would list your father as the late Mr. Domino. As for the list of family members, I would make it something general that way your father is still listed formally.

Jen4948

I think I'd list your father with an asterisk after his name, and then at the bottom after another asterisk, put "In loving memory" or something like that rather than as "the late Bride's Father."