Up in your shyt.

sep72fendr

When you ladies were planning, did you have that one person who was constantly up your a$$ about your wedding stuff?

I have a "friend" (I use quotes because we have gotten distant and she always kind of annoyed me.. think of "Karen" from the Dane Cook sketch) from high school  who has recently been trying to get back involved in my life. She is constantly asking me to see my dress, what are my colors, do I need her address, etc etc. Normally it wouldn't bother me, but it really irked me when she asked if she could use my engagement photos for her work (she works at a travel agency).

I was floored at the audacity of it. Now I'm to the point where I want nothing to do with her; yet I know if I don't invite her, shyt will hit the fan.

Advice?

wadingmoose

Nope.  I kinda wished someone was that interested.  But... yeah.

nhelene

Not really... some of the girls at work are pretty excited and ask me lots of questions but I don't think they ever expected to be invited. 

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]When you ladies were planning, did you have that one person who was constantly up your a$$ about your wedding stuff? I have a "friend" (I use quotes because we have gotten distant and she always kind of annoyed me.. think of "Karen" from the Dane Cook sketch) from high school  who has recently been trying to get back involved in my life. She is constantly asking me to see my dress, what are my colors, do I need her address, etc etc. Normally it wouldn't bother me, <strong>but it really irked me when she asked if she could use my engagement photos for her work (she works at a travel agency</strong>). I was floored at the audacity of it. Now I'm to the point where I want nothing to do with her; yet I know if I don't invite her, shyt will hit the fan. Advice?
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I don't understand why this would bother you...?

breezerb

Maybe tell her you're kinda of sick of wedding talk and try to talk about her instead?

AdeleDazeem

Every group has a Karen and she's always a bag of dooouche. 

sep72fendr

It bugged me because she only started talking to me in regards to booking a honeymoon through her. That's the ONLY reason that she started talking to me.

AmoroAgain

See, I'm the one who will say, tell her to stfu and leave you alone.  If you don't want her as a friend and you don't care about keeping in touch with her... why bother?

baystateapple

Nope...I'm one of the last ones to get married in my group of girlfriends, so they've all been through it before. 

It's more my mom's friends and the older people I work with who ask the questions, lol.

sep72fendr

Ahhh thanks Amoro. That's what I needed to hear. I'm torn between being nice to her versus straight up being a biotch and telling her off. I would love to do the latter, but I don't want to ruffle any feathers amongst mutual friends because sadly my conscience tells me to behave more than I would care to.

danieliza1127

What kind of sh!t would hit the fan?  Did you book your honeymoon through her? 

If you don't like her, just stop talking to her.

PharmacyBride

I can see how only wanting to talk wedding stuff can bug ya.  I hate that it is the only thing some people talk about and it is definitely the FIRST thing they ask me.  Maybe they feel obligated or something.

I think your biggest issue is being annoyed by her in general.  Get some space from her and see how things go in a couple of weeks.  I bet anything she does now will tick you off.

AmoroAgain

Look, she's overstepping boundaries by a LOT.  If you've already tried the nice way and she didn't get off you, I say it's clearly within your right to tell her to stuff it.  Now, you can either do it the hard way (confrontation) or you can do it the easy way (not responding to anything she says, going out of your way to avoid her).  I've done the latter, but the former works better.  You don't have to be mean about it, but just say, "I appreciate your interest in the wedding, however, you're making me uncomfortable with the amount of information you want, your use of our engagement photos, and desire to have us book a honeymoon through you.  If your intent is to truly try to become a good friend of mine, then please take this as a message to back off a bit.  If your only intent in attempting to speak to me again was to book a honeymoon, you really should have just asked and left it at that.  I have no interest in pursuing our friendship any further.... " blah blah blah.

sep72fendr

I didn't book a honeymoon through her. I have no intention of doing so. I just don't want to start any drama with her. I haven't said anything to her yet, just pretty much either responded with limited answers or not answered at all when she asks me stuff (which were all via facebook, no calls or texts). The last thing I want to do is hurt anyone's feelings, but I'm just tired of pretending to care about her as a friend. I only did it for the past so odd years because my best friend Heather was friends with her and didn't want to offend, but now even Heather is annoyed with her shyt and shennanigans. (yes, I just used the word shennaniagns and am a bad person for pretending to be annoying girl's friend).

danieliza1127

I'm not saying you should confront her or "tell her off".  I'm just saying, if you don't want to talk to her about your wedding, just don't.  Don't respond to her e-mails or messages.  If you don't want to invite her to your wedding, don't.  She's not your friend, she's your friend's friend.