Quick invite question

amber2123

For my BM, to I address the invite to them, then their H...or do I always put the male first?  Also if two people live in the same houe, grandma and uncle, do they get one invite or two?

JanoBean75

Married: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

Grandma gets one, Uncle gets one.

lilianne22

If they took their H's last name and the invites are formal it would be:
Mr. and Mrs. H's first and last name.

Yes, the grandma and uncle would each receive separate invitations.

sarah0725

Actually, unless you are writing "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith," the woman always goes first:

Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith

And all guests who are over the age of 18 should get their own invitation, unless they are a couple, in which case two people go on the same invitation.

squirrly

Married, same last name:  Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Married, different last name:  Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith

unmarried but dating/engaged, living together:
Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith

unmarried adults and not a couple, living together: 
   if they're siblings, you can do "The Brothers Smith" or "The Sisters Smith"
   otherwise, each person who has graduated from high school gets their own invite

with children:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (or one of the other above options for unmarried OR diff last names)
Miss Jane Smith
Mr. Tyler Smith

sarah0725

I'll add that if you decide you want to list any married couples who have the same last name with both of their first names, which I am probably going to do in at least some cases, it would be:

Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith

The lady comes first.

tenofcups4me

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_quick-invite-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:feca846c-2127-4174-9396-0459656537d8Post:fd0fee25-98f8-41ff-9c0c-e31390297cbb">Re: Quick invite question</a>:
[QUOTE]I'll add that if you decide you want to list any married couples who have the same last name with both of their first names, which I am probably going to do in at least some cases, it would be: Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith The lady comes first.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

OR I've more often seen:
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith

And you can always skip titles and do:
Jane and John Doe

To my mind, any of those is is vastly preferable to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

sarah0725

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_quick-invite-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:feca846c-2127-4174-9396-0459656537d8Post:d2045adf-4d0e-443c-9583-7bf85cf99141">Re: Quick invite question</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Quick invite question : OR I've more often seen: Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith And you can always skip titles and do: Jane and John Doe To my mind, any of those is is vastly preferable to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.
Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

I think the objection here is that you're not supposed to separate a man from his last name, no? But maybe that's silly.

tenofcups4me

That is the objection, but since I've never heard a good reason for that rule (besides "it's the rule!"), it's not one I care whether or not I follow.

BTW, on my invitations for my first wedding, for spacing reasons, I did actually do what you suggested:
Mrs. Jane Doe and
Mr. John Doe

but I've never seen anyone else do that.

amber2123

Thanks all!