Gift Registry Etiquette

Katelyn89

I am reposting this because I think TK at my post, so sorry if it comes up twice.

We are registered at Sears and my FMIL told me the items I had registered for are for showers (not expensive enough). I registered for items in the 10-100$ range. She said her family will want to spend more/go in on gifts. I know my family will not send more than what we already registered for. 

I decided I would add some more expensive items and added the Dyson, small deep freezer, etc. but we really don't need that much since we have been living together for 4 years. 

Would you find it weird if you saw furniture on a registry: rugs, dining room furniture, coffee tables. All cheaper than the Dyson. I did a quick web search and most say it's okay, but they also say HM registries are okay too, so I wanted to get your opinions. 

I am already having a hard enough time finding enough gifts for possibly 3 showers and the wedding (about 225 guests and I have about 80 gifts registered for).

Thanks.

Beachy730

I don't think it's bad to have bigger things on there, because as your FMIL said some people will spend more or go in on gifts together.  As long as you have a range of prices on there you're fine.  If you need more things to put on there start looking at what you can upgrade.  Get some really nice new towels, or some sets of nice sheets.  

kimandjosh22

I would not find it weird to have some accent furniture or rugs on there...we're sort of in the same place, we don't need a lot, but we're looking at the registry as a chance to upgrade some of the things that we have, what I like to call College and First Apartment leftovers.  then we can donate those items of have a tag sale so other college students or people furnishing their first apartment can use them. If people are looking to spend more they can also group some smaller items together (however this would require adding more smaller items to your registry) and if people still don't feel like they can give you as generous of a gift as they would like they can always give cash with a smaller item. The cash could then be put towards something big like a dining room set.

kimandjosh22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-registry-etiquette-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fed51560-28fe-4982-a457-5603a5e48ee2Post:fa9706ab-7210-4ce1-babc-92a036f3f7cb">Re: Gift Registry Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it's bad to have bigger things on there, because as your FMIL said some people will spend more or go in on gifts together.  As long as you have a range of prices on there you're fine.  If you need more things to put on there start looking at what you can upgrade.  Get some really nice new towels, or some sets of nice sheets.  
Posted by Beachy730[/QUOTE]


I like this too! you can never have too many linens ...even if you don't use the ones you register for right away you will use them eventually.

VeggieLove1022

Many people don't like the Honeymoon registry so I would steer clear of that. If people want to buy your dinner for your honeymoon they will give you cash. 

I wouldn't side-eye a registry with furniture and decor. Your price range sounds fine, but I've heard that you need to add quite a few more items to your registry than there are guests. I've also heard that if you have a smaller registry (which appears is what you have in comparison with your guest number) that you'll receive mostly cash. 

With you having showers though, I would suggest registering for a few more things so you can open tangible items at those showers. 

ETA- complete reading fail on the HM registry. I thought you were considering it, but now I see that you were questioning the sources of those saying it was okay to put bigger items on registries. 

Katelyn89

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-registry-etiquette-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fed51560-28fe-4982-a457-5603a5e48ee2Post:18711573-6811-4fb7-b8e4-112b78791803">Re: Gift Registry Etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]Many people don't like the Honeymoon registry so I would steer clear of that. If people want to buy your dinner for your honeymoon they will give you cash.  I wouldn't side-eye a registry with furniture and decor. Your price range sounds fine, but I've heard that you need to add quite a few more items to your registry than there are guests. I've also heard that if you have a smaller registry (which appears is what you have in comparison with your guest number) that you'll receive mostly cash.  With you having showers though, I would suggest registering for a few more things so you can open tangible items at those showers. 
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</div><div>Good point, I figured I would have to add more items. Yea I definitely wouldn't have an HM registry, I really don't like the idea of a company getting part of the money. 

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pokepoke27

When my cousin got married she put a new bedroom set on her registry. I think she got one thing in that set for the wedding. But, she put it on the registry because she figured if she didn't get, she could purchase it herself after the wedding. A lot of places give a discount if you purchase your "left over" registry items. 

MyUserName1

If your registry had all furniture, I would think it was lame. If you had a hundred items under 100$ and about 10 big ticket items, I wouldn't think anything of it.

chumlee7478

I wouldn't think it was weird.  A lot of my friends have done it, and for various reasons.  Most want the registry completer discount, and that's fine.  We put a few expensive items on our registry, and if we didn't get them, we knew we had the discount available later.  We did get most of the pricey items though, so you never know what people will buy. 

One of my friends registered at a few different stores, and most of her items were $125 and under.  She registered for two arm chairs at Pottery Barn or C&B and planned on using the discount after the wedding (she figured no one would buy them due to price).  People at her work bought them one chair as a group gift, and they used the discount to get the other one.  It worked out well, and I definitely didn't think it was odd. 

UKgal321

Have you registerd for Wedding China?  I'm not sure if this is still the thing to do or if it's out dated.  If you register for a whole set including coffee mugs, serving platers, glassware, and tea pot it could add up.  People could def go in on it!

kfras

I agree with above. Always include an wide variety of price options. Small furniture items are not out of the oridinary. FSIL registered for things like shelves, lamps (expensive), and a small cart with wheels on it and drawers. Actually a couple of those I think.

When you all discuss how it is bad etiquette to have a HM registry, do you mean the sites where people buy specific things for your HM? Like dinner one night, or champagne to your room, or scuba diving? Aside from those Hm registries (ew...don't do this), are you booking through a travel agent? Is it against etiquette to register at the travel agency?? For FSIL (I am a BM) we purchased a $200 gift certificate to liberty travel for one of her shower gifts from the BMs. This just goes towards paying their balance, so more similar to giving cash than picking an item off the list. Although I guess that is ok for a shower gift... but since you have to pay the balance off prior to your trip it may not be a good idea for a wedding gift. Unless you use it towards a future trip?

kfras

Oh also, we registered for wedding china! Wasn't going to, but figured if someone doesn't get it then oh well. But if someone wants to then it will be nice to have in the long run.