This might be a little rant-ish.... my friend and I got engaged at the same time, I booked my small destination wedding shortly after (over a year ago). She just booked her huge hometown wedding about a month ago and scheduled it for about a month after mine - which is fine, that doesn't bother me whatsoever, but she asked me to be a bridesmaid and I hesitated for a little bit and told her I would, but explained to her my concern with our weddings being so close together I have a lot of planning to do of my own and a lot of financial responsibility (we also recently had a baby so I've been dealing with a newborn on top of that) so I'm probably not going to be the worlds best bridesmaid, more closer to the worst! She agreed and said she wouldn't put any pressure on me and I would only have to buy the dress (no shoes, etc) and show up....
Then comes bridezilla - now she picked out very expensive shoes we need to buy, plus matching jackets, and she booked out hair appts, it basically goes on and on. I want to be there for my friend, but it's just becoming very overwhelming. I have spent more time planning her wedding than I have my own, which she's not even attending (I completly understand as it's a destination and right before her wedding). She got mad when I told her we're not going to be back from our honeymoon until the week before her wedding because she's going to need me and even asked if we could change it. She's been wanting me to take days off of work to help her and now I'm afraid to tell her that her overnight bachelorette party lands on a weekend my fiance is going to be gone and I have no one to watch our children.
She hasn't even asked me once about my wedding, apparently because it's small and destination means it's a non priority. And I have it "easy" when it comes to planning as she once told me.
Is it normal for brides to get this way? I just want to tell her find someone else, I have my own worries - but I could never be that friend. I feel like yes I knew what I was getting into agreeing to be a bridesmaid, but I told her my story upfront and she told me she was fine with it. Sorry rant is over!