RSVP vent

wallyson

I know we all have RSVP vents, but I just need to get mine out. FMIL asked us to invite their neighbors (only because said neighbor outright asked to be invited to the wedding). So, we invited them.We got their RSVP in the mail today. They are coming and are bringing their grown and not-living-at-home daughter and her boyfriend...whom I have never met. FI doesn't even know either of them either. Why would they want to come to the wedding of a couple whom they have never even met??Ugh.

LVCK

Wow. THAT is ridiculous! Good luck sorting that out.

kgaliger

ugh - no no no no...you must call them and tell them thank you but NO

wallyson

Believe me...I want to! However, part of me just does not want to rock the boat and just let it slide. We have only gotten one "no" so far, so our numbers are looking much higher than we had expected. I might just have to get FMIL to give them a call.

NcsuPsych

IMO I would go ahead and have FMIL call them and let them know that that isnt 'Ok'. Its one thing to add one person (Like if I invited my cousin and she brought her friend without said friend being previously invited), but to bring another couple, that doesnt even know you. . thats just wrong. I would feel VERY awkward if I were that couple. .I can't believe they did that. Good luck!!

wlfpkbride

I think it is rude for people to ask to be invited, let alone to invite another couple after you've done that! I don't know what is wrong with people.

keserzan

I would have flipped my effing lid! Put your foot down chica!

wallyson

Thanks for all the comments! I'm going to talk to FMIL today, but she will probably just want to let it slide and will most likely offer to pay for them. People are just crazy!

trinnyface

Sorry I am late one this. I agree with everyone - say no! Politely explain (even though they weren't polite in essentially inviting themselves in the first place) that with your numbers, you are not allowing invitees to bring guests. They should understand that a wedding is expensive and shelling out a LOT of money for two people you don't even know is uncool. Weddings should be about you and your FI and having people around you that love and support you - not strangers!

wallyson

Well, I spoke with FMIL and just as I expected, her response was "Oh just let them come." I guess the daughter is getting married next year and wants to see what our wedding is like to get ideas.

arobertson62282

I'm late to the game, but that sounds pretty typical of my hometown. In fact, I was probably the plus one with my parents a time or two. I had no idea I wasn't invited, my parents just insisted I come. Now that they've been through my wedding, I think they understand that it's not acceptable. I hope your numbers even out though - I found that my first batch was a bunch of yes's, no's come late.

CJ4578

Wait what- her daughter wants you to spend $$ on her so she can come and get ideas from your wedding? Tell her to effing go blogging! That is what Style Me Pretty is for! Argh. I agree with PP- what is wrong with people?And if FMIL isn't paying for the wedding, I don't think she gets a "oh just let them come" vote. People don't realize that when numbers go up, it's not just the food price that goes up- it's everything.Whew. Sending you vibes.

momofayden

Call them and tell them no!