bridesmaid rant

Jessica82799

One of my bridesmaids just called and left a message that made no mention of excitement/the fact that I am getting married in approximately 72 hours. The message was to tell me that her bridesmaids dress doesn't fit right and she doesn't want to pay $60 to get it altered to fit and so would I mind if she changes her outfit during the reception.SERIOUSLY!?!!?!?I have asked very, very little of my bridesmaids. Basically the dress was my only requirement. I guess it isn't that big of a deal for her to change clothes. The thing that makes me sad is that this was literally the first call I have gotten from her in at least 3 months. She didn't come to my engagement party, my shower, my bachelorette, or anything else. She lives in NY so I understand the distance being a problem, but she could at least have called/texted/emailed to tell me she wishes she could be there or that she is excited for me. She hasn't ever asked about my planning or how things are going...I doubt she even knows what is going on in my life besides my wedding. It just makes me sad for what looks like a friendship that is probably ending and annoyed for the moment that she would bother me about her dress 3 days before the wedding.grr =/

bagantt

Sorry Jessica, that sucks.  You are exactly right, she should have made a point to be conversational about SOMETHING (how about you 3 days away from the big day?) besides just bringing up her dress.  And she's probably had that dress for a while now.  Is she just realizing it doesn't fit comfortably??  I'm sorry you have that coming up, but in a few days you'll be married and that will be all that matters!

grace_uga

People have a way of really revealing their true colors during times like this and unfortunately, it's not always pretty. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I understand why you would be upset. Just don't let her lack of participation or excitement bother you. On the day, you are going to be so happy, it won't even cross your mind..

RedHead14

Yuck.  I am so sorry that she is being so inconsiderate.  I would just say that you don't care if she changes after the ceremony and then forget about it.  There is no sense in letting something like this worry you, on Saturday you won't care a bit (but she still shouldn't have called about it NOW!) Relax, deep breaths!  Don't let Everest have an excuse to return!

CJ4578

Ugh.I'm sorry. Hopefully she'll turn on the happy for your wedding and get excited for you! And keep that dress on- I mean she paid for it, why not alter it? So confused.

allie76

Sorry Jessica--one thing I learned in this whole wedding process is that no one cares as much about the wedding as you do---even bridesmaids--and that hurts a little.But I let all that crap go and had a wonderful wedding day!

Jessica82799

Thanks girls! I know everything will be fine on Saturday - she is the one who is going to look dumb, not me. It just makes me sad that this is the only contact we have had in months.

tarheels1

Yeah...that sucks.  I agree w/ Allie, though, it comes as a rude awakening sometimes when even those who are closest to you (i.e., bridal party) aren't super excited for you.  I'm having a somewhat similar issue (bridesmaids not making a big deal of it) and they're my freakin' family!! It's sad but I'm w/ Megan...just say 'whatever' and know that she'll be the one who is ridiculous.

wendyh33

If you need me get Jersey on her, say the word. I might have been some what quiet the other night but, it's in me, trust me!

birdcagebride

You know about my friendship loss secondary to wedding crap. People really show their true colors during big life events like this...it's scary but worth it in the end to know who your friends really are. Sorry she's pulling this on you with so little time to go...a BIG wtf to her for that.