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Is this enough for bridesmaids?

I got all of my girls this really pretty silver, heart shaped jewelry box.  I also had it engraved with their name, then love, my name and the date of the wedding. I keep thinking I should get something else though...like it's not enough. What do you think? If you think something else, any ideas?  Thanks!

Re: Is this enough for bridesmaids?

  • edited December 2011
    Not that price matters, but if you spent a decent amount of money on it (aka it's a good quality item), then I don't think you need to get anything else.  But if it is a cheap jewelery box, I think you should get something else. It's not a matter of how much you spend, but you do want your girls to feel appreciated for helping and being a part of your day. Others may feel different, that's just how I feel.
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  • melissa721melissa721 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto PP.
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  • classico52classico52 member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, with the engraving it came to about $45 a piece.  It's a nice box and is pretty solid...doesn't look cheap.  I'm thinking to maybe find a $30 pair of earrings or something to put IN it so thet get both.  But my wedding is this Sunday and have so much already to do...so if I don't HAVE to, I'd rather not..lol.
  • edited December 2011
    You don't have to do anything.  However, I think it would be a nice gesture to put a little something in there.
  • edited December 2011
    I would just go with your gut.  If you think you're girls would be happy with just the jewelery box, then I say stick with that. If you feel like you should give something else, then I would.  Go out and just get gift cards if you don't have time to shop.
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  • edited December 2011
    if your wedding is this sunday, then just wrap it real nice and get each one a special card with it.Or write each one a note of thanks...im paying for all my bms hair and makeup so after the wedding, when the pics are in, im sending each BM a pic of the 2 of us from the wedding in a nice frame - maybe engraved with our names...
  • Jon&KristaJon&Krista member
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    edited December 2011
    if you want to get something else in the $30 price range, what about a GC for a mani/pedi? it's easier than earrings---1 stop shopping for the most part :)
  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the others, but I also wonder about the utility of putting your wedding date on it.  First, "Jane <3 Jen 1/15/10" looks like you're saying that's the date on which the two of you got married... which you didn't.  But I also would kind of be put off by a gift that had someone else's wedding date on it.  I wouldn't put a "Jane and Mike 1/15/10" favor candle out in my home, and I wouldn't use a "I was a bridesmaid in Jane's wedding" totebag.
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  • edited December 2011
    Personally, I think $45 is enough to spend. Some on here will tell you otherwise and some have spent wayyyy more than that...that being said, IF you can afford to put something in it or get something else - go for it, but if you cannot afford it then don't - your girls will appreciate whatever you put it in there. I spent about $45-$50 per girl and they loved the stuff I got
  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto uppereast. Nice gesture, but since the box has YOUR wedding date engraved on it, then I would get them something else specific to THEM. Something they like and will use. A piece of everyday jewelry, a gift card, a bottle of their favorite wine, etc. Doesn't have to be fancy or expensive, but it should be something that you picked out especially for them, something that doesn't center around your wedding.
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry, I just read your post about your wedding being on Sunday.  To be honest, I think that's not a very good reason to not get them more stuff.  I'm sure they're all making a big time and money commitment to be in your wedding.  It seems kind of bad to then be lazy about their gifts because you waited until the last minute and then didn't have enough time to put effort into it? 
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  • melissa721melissa721 member
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    edited December 2011
    Adding on to the idea of writing a nice note: for each of my girls I typed them up a thank you letter but not a generic message. Each letter was one typed page (just happened that way) and was different for each of my girls. I rolled it up like a scroll and tied it with ribbon and put it in their gift bag sticking out. It made the gift look pretty, and I honestly think what I said to them in each of the letters meant more than whatever was in the bag. Just something to keep in mind.
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  • edited December 2011
    If you know your girls will love the jewelry box then I think it's enough. But if it's not something you know they would really want and you just got it to get something, than I think that you should take the time to go shopping and pick up something that you know they would appreciate.  
  • Brich1008Brich1008 member
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    edited December 2011
    Not to sound harsh -  but I have to agree about being put off by a gift with YOUR wedding date on it.  I think that the BM gifts should be more personal to each BM.  I know that each girl in my BP has a different personality and would probably not want a box with my wedding date on it.  It seems like a bridal shower favor that you wind up throwing out!
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