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Would you bring something?

FI's cousin (up in Orange County, NY) is due to have a c-section tomorrow for twin girls, and invited us to come see the babies. I'm debating if we should bring a gift. I already got her some stuff for her baby shower last month, and I'm sure they don't want to lug more stuff home from the hospital. They have five other kids at home, so I was wondering if I should make some food to bring so the kids have dinner ready that night, or if they want to pop it in the freezer for the future (a big pan of mac n' cheese, a casserole, etc.). But her mother and other relatives live nearby and help care for the kids, so they have a big support system on call if they need something and it's not like they're in dire need of help/meals. And the other thing is that I don't know where the hospital is, so IDK if we're going to see the babies and then hang out at their house with the other relatives (and I could leave a pan of food there), or just see the babies and head right back home. Thoughts? Bring a little something, or just pay a visit? WWYD?
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Re: Would you bring something?

  • edited December 2011
    Personally, I always like to bring a little something, maybe flowers?
  • edited December 2011
    When i went to see my friend baby i actually just brought a pizza with me for her and her husband.  They fed her but he was so excited to have pizza. When I go to visit at the house i usually bring lasagne or something that can be stuck in the freezer for later.  Even though she has family near by it would still be a nice gesture. 
  • edited December 2011
    I bring flowers for mom, and a teddy bear and yankee outfit for baby
  • edited December 2011
    Bring something for the other children, so they feel special too.  Sometimes siblings don't like or want a baby coming into the family because they feel they'll get ignored.  It happened with my niece's sister (not my family) and she hated her and it hasn't really changed.  Also Mike told me how his brother put a pillow over his face when he was a baby because he hated him (his stupid mother told him this). Anyhow, how about a fun dessert like cupcakes or brownies?
  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys, flowers or goodies is a good idea. Haha, Lisa Beth, I used to say to my mother in a really icy voice, "Mommy, YOUR BABY is crying" when my younger sister was first home with us. (And I love the new pic!)
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  • edited December 2011
    Flowers or a little something for mom & dad to munch on.  A gc for a mani/pedi for mom.  A gc for a restaurant for the two of them so they could order in or eat out.Cookies or brownies in a tin would be great.  They can munch, others can munch, and it's easy to bring home.  Does she have a favorite dessert?
  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    There's a bakery by me that makes good sprinkled donuts that the kids liked last time I brought them ... maybe I'll get a box of those to bring, and if we wind up not going back to the house, I'll bring them into work tomorrow (my coworkers went _apeshit over them the last time I brought them in, lol).
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  • edited December 2011
    Maybe a tray of cookies or some kind of baked goods.
  • edited December 2011
    after i had my son the best gift someone gave me in the hospital was food. i would bring something for lunch/dinner...anything is better than hospital food. or like others said bring a meal that can easily be frozen. it is nice to not think about what is for dinner when you have a new baby
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  • edited December 2011
    I just like to think of how this makes the existing children feel hearing the horror stories.  Thanks for the pic compliment--finally uploaded pro-pics.
  • edited December 2011
    yeah, I always offer to bring their favorite food, whether it is DD, or rita's, also I bring a toy if the baby has a sibling.  For my new cousin, I took his first photo that mom and dad uploaded to facebook, took it to CVS and made 20 copies so relatives that came to see the baby could take home his first picture.  Everyone loved that!!!
  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    i'm late, but yah, i'd bring a little something.  i just like bringing gifts wherever i go.  maybe mom would appreciate some snacks or cookies if the hospital allows that.  hospital food blows!
  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone. Would you believe this is all a moot point now (for me, anyway)? Ugh. The twins will be arriving around 8 a.m., so FI's just going to drive up in the early afternoon to visit - he's a teacher and has the time off, and I don't really want to use a vacation day because we see them fairly often so it's not like this is my only chance. I told him your suggestions, though, and he agreed that they're good ideas. So hopefully he'll remember to pick something up on the way there.
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