I may be wrong, but I need to vent.

tangie73

So a colleague of mine sent me a text message asking if I got engaged. I replied yes. Through the conversation she tells me she's preparing her invitations. So I got my invitation to her wedding in the mail today. On the RSVP she filled in 1! I have decided I will save her the cost of my plate as well. I will not be attending if he cannot attend. Blast me if you must.

jen629

she filled it in? ok thats very odd to me

melissa721

How nice of her to ask you first if you are engaged and then completely ignore the fact when she sends your invitation.

adam_dana

I wouldn't go either. I totally understand budgets and keeping guest lists under control.  However, if a couple is married or engaged, I feel you should invite both or neither.  Just half of the pair is rude to me

Rosie24

Some nerve. I don't think you are arong at all. I wouldn't go either. If you plan on inviting her to your wedding you should do the same on her invite...haha.

kathymarie

What a weirdo. I wouldnt go. Just reply "no" and if she asks, tell her that you have a family commitment that day. If her and her fiance are on your list, I would still invite them so she can learn what an invitation should look like.

DiorAndKisses

I know I may be totally off here...but is there even a TEENY possibility that your coworker is just clueless and honestly thought the 1 she filled in meant your "and one"???  I can't see how anyone would intentionally omit one half of an engaged couple, especially after asking!  However, if it was intentional??? I totally wouldn't go.  That's just messed up of her!

cherylanddan0706

I totally agree with Kathy, that is so weird for her to call and ask then not invite, and I mean I don't want to make the "sorry no kids/guest" phone calls either but I wouldn't spend my time writing in the number of invited!

jaimelody

yea I was thinking the same thing... I wonder if she meant plus 1. But I wouldn't go if it was intentional. I mean why would she have even asked?

USER876

Cross it out with a two and send it back

cherylanddan0706

Augh User no! RSVP nightmare!

kathymarie

Was the envelope addressed to just you, or you plus guest? Inner envelope?

ddelo23

I would totally do what user suggested!

brad1431

instead of all the games, I would just call and ask her what is up with it and go from there.  Could be an honest mistake, better off asking then assuming

kewltif

For once in my life, I completely agree with Brad.

cherylanddan0706

Ill never admit what tiff said, so after reading everyones opinions, and seeing other sides, I agree with Tiff!

velveena

Huh?  It's got to be a mistake.  Call her.  If it wasn't a mistake, you can vent again

brad1431

thanks Tif

tangie73

Before leaving school for summer we were discussing her wedding.  She had stated then that she wasn't sure if she was inviting plus ones.  I would have believed that it is possibly a mistake if she hadn't sent another colleague a message of apology for not inviting her husband to the wedding.  Yet her FI wants my friends husband to serve as the DJ for free.  I really don't understand the logic.

CM1206

I agree with Brad and Tiff. Cross out 1 and write 2.

tangie73

Thank you all for your suggestions and your understanding.

kewltif

Ok- This is the type of girl who is inviting someone to her wedding and then expecting them to DJ for free... I highly doubt she's on top of etiquette. If you really want to go I'd call her and ask. If you don't really care either way, then just decline.

mbcdefg

When was the text? I'm wondering if she mailed you the invite, then said, "Oh sh*t, maybe she's engaged, I'd better check!" (Although then she probably would've said, "I sent you an invite, but please bring your FI, I didn't know you were engaged otherwise I would've included him.) Ditto Brad, call and see what's up. If you want.

justkris10

ditto user...cross it out or just don't care to spare the annoyace of having to do anything at all

melissa721

I'm curious for an update...

tangie73

Well I spoke to a few other colleagues and she basically sent all of us invitations with 1 on the RSVP. Basically, she will end up with a lot of us not attending because of this. I would just go to the church but they are doing the ceremony at the reception hall. I am sure we will discuss it sooner or later. Once I made the decision and vented with you guys, I'm over it.