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Holiday weekend wedding opinions

We are thinking about July 4th weekend 2011 since they might give us discounts.  July 4th is on a Monday.  If you were invited to a wedding either the saturday or sunday of this weekend would you cancel your July 4th plans to attend the wedding? (Assuming you were given enough notice before making your July 4th weekend plans).Please be honest.  My mom is thinking the 3rd will give us discounts because it's a Sunday AND the next day is a holiday and people have off the next day.  I'm not sure if the places will give us discounts for the 2nd which is the saturday of the holiday weekend (anyone know about this)Please be honest and tell me what you think.TIA

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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, unless I had already booked a vacation nothing would keep me away from a wedding on a July 4th weekend.
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    edited December 2011
    Do you have a lot of OOT guests?  If so, that will be very expensive for them so while you might be saving they are spending extra and might not be able to come.That type of holiday weekend would bother me because it's techincally a 4-day weekend (1/2 day Friday).  While most guests will say no problem and I would go as well, people will talk.
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    LarissaAnnLarissaAnn member
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    edited December 2011
    I would absolutely choose a wedding over any other July 4 plans. That said, the one holiday-weekend wedding I ever attended was on July 4, and if I'm being fully honest, I have to say it annoyed me. I get that they wanted to give people more time to travel to the wedding and recuperate afterwards (it was a Sunday wedding), but the holiday thing did annoy me. I went anyway.
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    kathymariekathymarie member
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    edited December 2011
    depends where it is. if it is at the shore, it would be a large inconvenience. ulitimately, people will talk no matter what you do and those who will come, will anyway. bottom line: do what is right for you and your family.
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    edited December 2011
    We don't have standing plans for the 4th and we don't tend to do anything over the top, like travel OOT or have a huge party, so I wouldn't mind going to a wedding on the 4th. But, I know there are a lot of people that have standing plans or do something big for the holiday so it really depends on your guest list. Plus like pp said if you have a lot of OOT guests it'll be a PITA for them to travel to NJ during that time. Also, I think it depends on the place whether you'll get a discount or not. Some places will give you the sunday night price and some will still charge you the Sat night price.
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    edited December 2011
    It wouldn't bother me.  We don't do anything extra special typically for July 4th...other than maybe a party or something. I would go to the wedding. Just curious as to why it would cost guests extra money though? I don't remember what PP said this.  Maybe I'm wrong, but I wouldn't think hotels would bump up their prices for July 4th, especially in North Jersey.
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    edited December 2011
    We were going to do Memorial Day (or Labor Day before our date was changed) and not one venue said there would be a discount for us having it on/around a holiday. I'm not sure about other vendors, but to me the reception was the biggest price point and most important when considering the holiday. Also, prices for flights will likely be more expensive. You've got to think about traffic if you're somewhere in South Jersey/near the beach. While I would still come to a wedding if it were around a holiday, planning one simply because it would be more convenient/cheaper just isn't true IMO.
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    kathymariekathymarie member
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    edited December 2011
    Chelsea, shore hotels really do bump up prices during the week of the 4th, so it all depends. It's a large travel week.
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    edited December 2011
    oh yes, the shore I would imagine would. I just assumed she was having a North Jersey wedding since this was the north jersey board. Did she say "shore" ? haha I missed it if so. sorry. Definitely if it's down the shore, it'll be a pain all around.  Otherwise, I wouldn't see it as an issue. 
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    kathymariekathymarie member
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    edited December 2011
    Nope, I dont think she said. I was just saying as an example.
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    edited December 2011
    There wouldn't be too many people that are OOT that need to fly here, most could drive.  It wouldn't be by the shore it would be in the somerset/middlesex/mercer county area.  The only other area we are considering is Freehold.
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    edited December 2011
    For me, I always hate getting summer holiday wedding invites. I almost always reply no.
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    edited December 2011
    I would mem day....it's usually not as warm and people are less likely be to OOT or have big vacation plans.  Usually people get together on that monday.  Have it on the Sunday for the best rate.
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    edited December 2011
    I think you would get a discount for a sunday, but I can't imagine for the "holiday" to be honest.I would have no issues, like PP said I don't really make going away plans considering I live at the jersey shore especially.  I even have a wedding next July 2nd, which isn't an issue for us.Oh and Miss Chelsea...this is the NNJ & CNJ board :)
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    lmcit23lmcit23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not a fan of holiday weekend weddings.. I usually have a bbq with friends those weekends. I would probably say no unless it was a close friend/relative. Just my opinion.
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    uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't mind at all. Weddings are inconvenient to many guests no matter when and where they are. The advantages of a three-day weekend wedding are that local guests still have two weekend days to do other things, and out of town guests have an extra day for travel and don't have to take an extra vacation day. I wouldn't worry too much about people picking a bbq over coming to your wedding-- I can't imagine too many people would make that choice. If I'd try to give guests plenty of advance notice though so they don't make other plans.
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    alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    not a huge fan of holiday weekend weddings; typically more expensive for travel & stay and i might have other plans, especially in the summer. 
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    edited December 2011
    Having it the day before 4th of July wouldn't bother me.  Having it ON 4th of July would be annoying because we always host a party. 
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    edited December 2011
    I HATE weddings on holiday weekends, and I dont like when people give the whole it is easier on OOT guests, or you can make a mini vacation out of it.I will choose when and where to go on my vacation, so dont force me to lose my vacation for your wedding.  I get so few vacation days, dont take away the little that I have.  If I was close to the person I would alter my plans, but I would not be happy about it
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    edited December 2011
    We had our wedding on the Friday of MDW and nobody had an issue with it.  It was the kick-off of the weekend/holiday.  Why not price it out and find out if there would be a discount.
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    edited December 2011
    Well, I'm getting married July 2nd, 2010 (I'm the one Cheryl mentioned above -- love you girl).  We are actually getting married on that date because it is our 5 year anniversary and happens to fall on a Friday.  We wanted a Friday night wedding to keep costs downs.I actually feel kinda stupid b/c it didn't even occur to me how close we are to a holiday until after the planning started, the deposit was made on the venue, etc.  Oh well, I hope everyone that is important to us is willing to be there! *fingers crossed*
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    edited December 2011
    The other part of this is that if it's a Friday of a holiday weekend people can start the vacation on Saturday.  If it's on a Saturday or Sunday you have basically commandeered that weekend for your wedding.
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    kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    It wouldn't bother me.  I got married on Valentine's Day, and that was President's weekend.  I think maybe 2 or 3 people (who weren't important) out of 280 said they couldn't attend because they made plans to be out of town. I would just be sure to send STDs far in advance.
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    TrishnCraigTrishnCraig member
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting married on July 4th of 2010 (its a Sunday) and our venue did give us a discount not only because it is a Sunday but also because of the Holiday.  I do know however, that if we were going to have it on the Friday or Saturday that we would not be getting a discount.  Another thing to think about is how many people you are inviting.  I know at the Channel Club whee we are getting married that for a Saturday night wedding we needed to guarentee 150 people but becaue we are getting married on the Sunday we only need to guarentee 100 people.  Most of the places we looked at also give discounts and fewer # guarentees for a Friday night .    My FI and I figured the people who we really wanted to be there would be .  We also started spreading the word about the July 4th date as soon as we booked it and it seems as if almost everyone we are planning on inviting are going to be attending and are looking forward to it. 
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    las1977las1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    Personally I am not a fan of holiday weekend weddings especially if you have to travel there is a ton of traffic.  I would defnitely send out save the dates in advance. Good luck planning.
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting married July 3, 2010. We did not receive any discounts especially since its a Saturday night. We did realize we would be taking up our guests holiday weekend, so we decided to host a BBQ the next day for all of our guest especially the OOT.
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    JessK81JessK81 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's funny, I used to be annoyed with holiday weekend weddings, but now I'll be getting married Memorial Day Weekend.  FI said it worked best for his family to travel.  Oddly enough, we're getting married that Saturday and we are getting a discount from our reception hall.  Something about it being like a Friday since it's a long weekend, so definitely ask about Saturday discounts. But really, is there ever a convenient time for a wedding? Just do what works best for you.
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