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Drinking at a shower?

Do you have to provide liquor at a shower? My gut says no... but Bride's sister says yes. Thoughts?

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    edited December 2011
    I had a brunch...we had mimosas.  That was it.
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    Laurms15Laurms15 member
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    edited December 2011
    if its brunch you can do mimosas or something like that. I wouldn't have a full bar but something like that might be nice. I don't drink but I know others appreciate it.
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    edited December 2011
    Sangria is a nice option too.
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    edited December 2011
    They had a sparkling punch for me - I think pink lemonade with champagne or something along those lines.  Those that wanted mixed drinks got up and went to the bar which I thought was fine since it was only 4 people out of 35.
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    MyeMye
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    edited December 2011
    i had sangria, white and red wine, beer also available but no one had it
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    vanessapodunkvanessapodunk member
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    edited December 2011
    Depending on the type of party, mimosas, punch, sangria or any other wine seem appropriate and lady-ish. Definitely not necessary though. I wouldnt expect it at a shower and I wouldnt be disappointed without it.
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    vanessapodunkvanessapodunk member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh and we had mimosas only at mine since it was a brunch.
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    melissa721melissa721 member
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    edited December 2011
    We had mimosas.
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    edited December 2011
    I had wines, champagne, and limited open bar.  I was aainst it at first and wWhen I asked this question on here the majority said absolutely.
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    DMLJDMLJ member
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    edited December 2011
    I would think just wine is fine.
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    edited December 2011
    I like the mimosas, but I think we're doing an afternoon thing. I think wine and beer is okay. Sangria is right up her alley. But not open bar lets party and get sloshed. There are going to be older women and children there.
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    edited December 2011
    Obviously I'm not throwing my own shower (since I have no clue) but if I was to throw there would be alcohol, showers are boring and I always want some alcohol, now whether I pay for it myself as a guest or not doesn't matter. I've been to showers as a guest with no option of alcohol and have been mad lol. So I think always have the option cash bar or wine or something not an issue I would gladly pay myself.
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    edited December 2011
    personal preference, but I've only ever been to one shower that didn't.
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    edited December 2011
    I think having a cash bar is much worse than not having alcohol. If you have at least one thing (wine, sangria, mimosa, etc.)than that is good. IMO:)
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    edited December 2011
    i totally agree with all the alcoholics above ;) In all seriousness, I think you should have a little something, (love mimosa and sangria ideas) but I don't think a full bar is necessary at all.  I also agree with cheryl about paying rather than nothing -
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    edited December 2011
    FYI - Not throwing my own shower - MOH is getting married two months before me, so we're planning hers!
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    kathymariekathymarie member
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    edited December 2011
    we had sangria, pomegranate cosmos, red wine, & white wine. I don't think it is necessary at all, but sometimes a little wine or something is nice.
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    edited December 2011
    Oh jaime no I wasn't saying you were, I was just saying I don't know what's at my shower I totally disagree on "cash bar is worse than nothing" personally I don't care if I have to pay as a guest. I have a lot of non-wine/champagne drinkers in my life
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    edited December 2011
    Ours was at a restaurant and so Mom and Dad offered the bar to anyone.  Most did not actually drink, but I have a few family members who would not be happy if there wasn't alcohol at least available.I think wine, sangria or punch is nice.  
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    leah2bleah2b member
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    edited December 2011
    No alcohol at a shower?  I don't drink that often, but I think it is appropriate to have something.  Seriously, we need something to get us through the 2 hours of gift opening!  I agree with Cheryl, I would have no problem paying for a drink myself.  A full bar is def. not neccessary though - wine, sangria, punch - they all work. 
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't have a problem paying the few bucks for a drink as a guest. I do think it is tacky to have a cash bar on behalf of the host. Again, that is totally my opinion!
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    edited December 2011
    No I think I agree with everyone. We will likely do wine and sangria. I just think the open bar would drive up the price a lot, and it's not necessary.
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    edited December 2011
    Wine and Sangria would be perfect, I would be happy but thats because those are my favorite.  Whats your MOH's favs?  I would use that if you could.
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think an open bar is necessary at all, but having some option would be nice, it just makes it seem like more of a party/social atmosphere.
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    mylittleray02mylittleray02 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with everyone else! I would hope you weren't planning your own! haha  :)
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    alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    yes.  open bar is necessary to get through that_crap.  expensive, but yes.
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    alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    my sister is on here and i won't terrify her with $ details but her bar tab was HUGE.  i assume mine wasn't that great either.  but our guests were happy, as i hope both of we were.
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    kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I usually drink wine at showers.
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    edited December 2011
    To me, it would be a must - you would just choose your options based on the time of the event we had sangria and wine for a lunch/early dinner
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