Are Readings an imposition?

neilly18

Fi and I carefully thought of who and how we wanted to include people in our wedding.  We asked his cousin (he was her ring bearer) and my good friend (she would have been a bridesmaid if we wanted a larger party) to do readings at the mass.  They both said no.  I understand not wanting to stand in front of a group of people, but now I am wondering if it is an imposition on a person. I have some other close friend to ask but I hate putting people on the spot.  Any thoughts?

CM1206

I had 2 people turn me down because they were terrified of public speaking.

jen629

If they are uncomfortable they will say no a few people did this for me but I think they would more likely be honored to do this for you and I dont think either of you have to feel bad if they dont....My SIL who I asked to be a bridesmaid who is from out of state declined being in the bridal party...I completely understood but did want her to feel involved...I didnt think they were gonna come at all and when they decided to come I asked her to do a reading...she declined but I felt better for having asked her

uppereastgirl

I think it is an honor, not an imposition, but I understand that people get nervous.

cherylanddan0706

Its great that you asked them, if they are afraid of public speaking they will kindly say no. I'm having fi's sisters to read a poem since I wanted to include them.

jen629

I did this for my sisters wedding and I was so nervous but how could I say no to my sister..lol...I was doing ok and then I looked up..that  was it I lost it and almost couldnt finish...but I think it made it that much more special to her....well it doesnt help that I am so emotional either:)

alliecarrie41

i think its a great honor to be asked to be a reader.  i didn't have this issue; my friends were very excited to be readers.

I <3 Seabass

I don't think it's an imposition but some people are terrified of public speaking so I wouldn't take it personally.

capecod1986

I did one at my sister's wedding. I had a hard time because I was the first reader and it was right after she walked down the aisle and I was still crying. But I considered it an honor to be asked.

neilly18

Thanks for all the reponses, I was just sort of shocked when they said no - but should have realized that not everyone is a blabber mouth like me! 

velveena

I was excited to be a reader.  I'd do it at every wedding if given the chance, lol.  If they don't want to read, they will say no.  Its not exactly a time or money commitment (unlike being a Bridesmaid).  All I did was print it out & read through it once the night before.  I can't imagine that being an imposition.

cvl105

My Fiance asked a friend to be a reader and he declined because he doesn't like to speak in front of groups of people.