Did your Mom/MOH/bridesmaid hate your dress?

danafromslope

I went and picked out my gown back in December with my FI (I am unconventional that way) and thought it was elegant and modern and he agreed. I just went to my first fitting today and my Mom HATED the dress. I mean HATED. Now our tastes aren't the same---she wanted lace and it up to my neck and I like clean and ruched and strapless--but it still kinda hurt that she was so negative. Anybody else have a similar experience where your friends\family just didn't like your gown?

neilly18

I didn't and I am sure that hurt but just want to say that as long as you love it the beauty of the whole moment will shine and  you will look beautiful in it. 

itsme32985

I think my family/friends know I would turn on the biotch switch if they told me they didn't like it after I already bought it, they would be too afraid. 

DMLJ

My mom and MOH have very different tastes than I do. I tried on a few very pretty dresses that were more their style than my own, but in the end, I went with something very girly that actually a bunch of people on this board hate. My MOH and mom don't HATE it, is just not their style-- I could see how that would be very hurtful

jaimelody

Ouch. That's rough. If you love it and it makes you feel like a beautiful bride, don't listen to what they say. Ultimately, you're the one wearing it. When Mom saw my E-ring for the first time she said it was gaudy! The worst word she could have chosen - but in the end, our mothers just speak their minds. Like the pp said, maybe it's just not her style.

kewltif

My mom did this to me with dresses I liked BEFORE I officially picked it. I don't understand the point in commenting now?! What are you supposed to do? You already picked it and it's in. That seems really hurtful.

kimmys81

My MOM didn't like my gown...when I was deciding, it was between the one I had (obviosuly) and a plainer gown. Now my mom is "plain jane." So we know which one she picked. My MOH on the other hand, loved the detail and beading on my gown. People will like your gown, people won't. What matters is that YOU LOVE your gown.

I <3 Seabass

My mom and I definitely didn't agree on all of the dresses that I tried on and it would get a little frustrating. But that was before we but the dress. I don' t understand why your mom would let you know that she hated it, that just seems really mean. I know I would be really hurt and start to second guess my choice. I hope that you still love your dress and are confident in your decision. Don't let her negativity get to you.

kewltif

Also, she might not love your gown in the store, but she will still think you're gorgeous the day of! There are plenty of girls who post dress pictures at fittings and I think, eh-ok.  Then the day of with their hair and makeup done, jewelery, proper undegarments, proper shoes, and the whole thing altered to fit perfectly- almost every bride looks stunning!

mrsdevilguy

I agree with pp I was MOH in my friends wedding last month & going to the some of her fittings I wasn't overly thrilled with her dress (wouldn't say it because it's her dress and wouldn't want to hurt her feelings). But the day of she looked absolutely stunning with everything put together.

justkris10

My mom and MOH actually picked out my gown - I wanted another but they convinced me I would regret not getting the dress I did...I didn't love it for a longggg time...but that day when I put it on it was amazing in every way and I was so happy I had chosen that one, what I'm trying to say is pretty much what Tiff said she may feel that way today, but when its on and you in your full element it will be totally different. When I practiced my bustle with a BM...I put the dress on and she was like "oh, thats not what I pictured it looking like" ...even that hurt and I know she didn't mean it that way but I'm sorry your mom feels that way and said that right to you