Sad!

katebh

So, we've been planning to get married at the coast in May of 2011 and now that my FSIL is married I was all ready to officially start my planning. Today I called the guy who owns the house where we want to hold the wedding to see about possibly renting it. I was hoping since we will be doing it before the high season really gets stared that we would have a little flexibility...no luck. We would have to commit to renting the house for at least a week and it would be Saturday-Saturday. So now I have to decide if I want to completely rethink my whole idea and go somewhere else, change the date to a Friday or if we can afford to rent it for 2 weeks one of which we wouldn't even be there for! Anyway....I'm just having a minor freak out....I knew this was a possibility but had basically refused to entertain it. 

Disclaimer: I do not by any means think the homeowner is being unreasonable. In fact I think he is being very gracious by allowing us to even consider a wedding at his home and to be willing to reserve a week for us this far in advance.

ktyd8

I'm sorry it's not working out! I don't know which area of the coast you are interested in but a few of us ladies on here are using a great venue in Surf City (Topsail Island). It's super inexpensive and you can rent it for the whole weekend for $1000. Here is the link: http://tinyurl.com/dfymgb

clschnack

I am sorry your plans might have to change, but think of it this way :  At least you have a year and a half to figure it out.    Don't worry... everything will fall into place eventually.

shigaites

I'm using the Surf City Surfside Center too!  We're renting it all day Saturday for only $600.  Amazing!  If you think you can get everything done in 8 hours or less you can rent it for even less than that.  We decided to spend the extra money so the caterer would have plenty of time for setup.

GirlieGirl27320

Don't completely freak out just yet!  You still have time to think it all over!  Things really will work themselves out, so just talk it over with your fiance/family and get their opinions, and then decide what you want to do from there.  Best of luck to ya!

midnite007x

kate, don't get discouraged....we are also using a beach house at oak island and ran into the same issues when we were looking for a venue/beach house....it just varies house to house and owner to owner. we were finally able to land a gorgeous house (check out bio) for four days during peak season and b/c we book a year in advance, they gave off peak 2009 rates.....for our peak season 2010 wedding!!!

what beach are you looking at? we looked at sooooo many houses so i may be able to help you out!

katebh

Thanks everyone! Momentary freakout....I'm better now! I can't tell you how much reading your messages helps though!

Oh, and we're looking at Holden Beach, Amanda.

midnite007x

we did look at holden (we actually looked at all the brunswick island except bald head b/c i wasn't paying fairy fees for all the guests)!
we decided on oak island. 

you just have to ask the realty companies what house are most commonly used for events/weddings....they usually call them "event friendly"
also be careful b/c most owners also limit the number of guests. we are only have 60 guests and our house allows 100. also, usually the closer you gt to 100 they are going to make you rent a porta john and pay extra event fees. if you are also planning on having your rehearsal dinner there, do NOT tell them that b/c then they may want to charge you two event fees. we just got lucky and they waived our event fee for the rehearsal b/c it was less than 20 people and the house sleeps 24.

i don't remember what houses we looked at on holden. i do remember some at ocean isle and an event lot at sunset. mostly oak island and caswell, they have SEVERAL event friendly houses.

email me if i can be of any help midnite007x at aol dot com