My grandma ran away last night

mscutieri

We got a phone call at midnight from the cops saying she was at a gas station on St. Georges Ave in Linden.  She has the beginning stages of Alzheimer's and it only recently started getting worse (the last few weeks).  My dad is in the middle of getting legal guardianship but it's taking so long and she keeps getting into "trouble" in the meantime.I really don't know how to handle all of this -- she calls the house 18 times a day, either crying or accusing us of taking things that she finds an hour later.  I feel like my grandma will never again be the grandma I remember and I'm so sad because of it. :0(Sorry, just needed to

caketime

Oh hun...sending you big hugs.  It's a very tough thing, I went through it with one of my grandmas.  All I can say is try to remember the special times you had and savor the ones where she is grandma again.

mbcdefg

*hug*Sorry, hon. My grandma had Alzheimer's too, so I feel your pain. It's not a fun process at all. She eventually lived at St. Joseph's Nursing Home in Jersey City and they took really good care of her. (Semi)-funny story relating to that ... once Nanny couldn't live on her own anymore, she lived with us for a few months. My mother took the knobs off the stove so that Nanny couldn't turn it on and burn the house down while we were all out. Only problem was that Mom hid the knobs so well that she never found them, and had to buy new ones :P

Jennileeb1680

im sorry Alzheimer's is sooo hard. Hopefully since you said she is in the beginning stages her dr's can work with diff meds to try and find something that will work to keep her more stable. Ill keep your grandma and your family in my prayers. Just be patient with her, because its just as hard on her as it is on the family.

cvl105

I'm so sorry. I don't know what else to say.  I can't imagine what it's like to see a loved one go through this.  My Grandfather kinda got like this right before he passed, luckily I never saw him like it though. I know it's hard, but just try to remember her before she got sick.

Mye

so sorry...its terrible, Fi's Grandma has it too, they deadbolted all the doors because of the fear of her running away....it has happened yet, but its such a sad disease

Stef-N-Ant 5 2011

Awwww thats so sad!My great grandmother did the same thing.  She got lost going over the Gothelas and from then on they hid to unplug the car battery.

dandb925

I'm so sorry...I can only imagine how hard it is to see a loved one go through that and it's just a terrible disease. Hopefully your dad gets guardianship soon.

teamAandE

Oh goodness, I don't know what to say but I am so so sorry. Your family needs to be strong and stick together.

Tara2316

I'm so sorry about your grandmother. I agree with pp, just remember her the way she was. It's going to a challenge but being a supportive family will definitley help her.

jen629

I am so sorry hon...I will keep her in my thoughts

mscutieri

Thanks everybody.  I guess the part that is stresses me the most is knowing that this is not the worst of it.  She definately has been a huge part of my life and the is turning 90 next week, bless her heart.I really appreciate all the helpful advice and I will keep loving her as I always have, even when it may not be easy. :0)

alliecarrie41

i am really sorry   my family and i went through beyond horrible times for a couple of years with my grandmother.  i can't even say outloud still some of the things she did because of her mind taking over.  you are in my thoughts, i wish i could say it gets better, but it's going to be very hard.  there are good times hidden however in the bad, welcome those and enjoy them while she is still around.

kle0113

I know this is not an easy time at all for you, but just like people said try to remember all the good times you have had with your grandma.  I am so sorry and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. 

tvlirene

I'm so sorry. I'm sure it's so hard for your family. Does she have times when she's lucid? My dad had that along with parkinsens and it was heart breaking. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I agree, pull together!

Angie550

Oh, I am so sorry.  I dont even know what to say.  My thoughts are with you guys.  Just try to stay strong and remember all the great memories you have.

cherylanddan0706

I'm so sorry mish, its not an easy thing to go through that happened to us too, big hugs to you and the family if you need any advice bb me love ya!

neilly18

I am so sorry you are going through this and am even sorrier it won't get easier for  you.  Stay strong but most of all cherish each and every memory you have.  Those will be the ones that are most vivid as the years go on. she will be in my prayers today  

ddelo23

I'm so sorry   it's such a horrible disease for anyone to have to live with, and also so hard for the families.  Hang in there.

Laurms15

I'm so sorry to hear that my grandfather (mom's dad) had it and I know how tough it is on the family. I'll keep you/your fam in my thoughts!!

smiles62309

I am really sorry to hear you are going through this. I really understand where you are coming from. My grandma had a massive heart attack this spring and the doctors said it was just a matter of days. She has not passed but dementia has started to take its course and things have been hard. This past summer (while it was supposed to be the happiest time just being engaged) was probably the hardest. I kept saying the same things you are saying. I feel like she isn't my grandma. Right now she is a hospice facility and they have her arms tied to a bed and can't identify what skin infection she has. Plus she can't seem to remember anything. I get through it by just thinking of the person she was before this. Remember all the good times with her and cherish the moments you have with her where she does remember. Although it is not easy, I am sure she would want you to remember her the good way. Sorry again your going through this. You aren't alone

DiorAndKisses

Sorry, and wishing you and your family strength as you go through this.