What should i do?? need help asap

jan3381

okay, my wedding is less than a month away and i have this friend that i used to work with that i meet for lunch about once a month and email occasionally.  I didn't invite her (i don't even have her address), I know she wouldn't come, she's never even met my FI, and wouldn't know a single person there and her husband is sick.  BUT I'm meeting her for lunch today and now I feel bad.. should I give her an invitation anyway? I could just say I didn't have her address? should i mention i didn't think she'd come? should i just not do anything? I really don't know what to do.. i have know her for a long time, but we aren't close at all, like i said we meet for lunch aobut once a month and email once in a while...please help i only have like an hour!!

cvl105

Bring an invite with you but don't bring it up.  If she for some reason brings it up...mention that you wanted to invite her, but that you didn't want her to feel obligated since she won't know anyone and that you weren't sure how she'd feel about being invited.  Then say you brought an invitation for her with you and give it to her.  Tell her to not feel obligated to attend if she'd be uncomfortable.

I <3 Seabass

Does she know that you're getting married in less than a month? If  she does know, then at this point she probably assumes she wasn't invited and may look at your sudden invite as a last minute decision to try and fill seats. Unless you really want her there I personally wouldn't invite her now. If you do hand her an invite take out the RSVP card since the RSVP date will have already passed or will be fast approaching and that will be even more of an indicator that this was a last minute invite.

mbcdefg

Don't invite her because you feel bad. Invite her only if you want her to come, not because you feel guilty. If she's a mature adult, she'll know that you can't possibly invite everyone that you know. I don't get why you suddenly feel so bad. Did she say something that led you believe that she's bummed that she didn't get an invite? (If so, then that was rude on her part.) Or are you just assuming that she wants an invite? Not everyone you know may necessarily be dying for an invite to your wedding, so don't assume anything. If you didn't think to invite her originally, then stick with that feeling.

jan3381

yeah, thats a good idea...i HATE weird situations like this....

jan3381

no she didn't say anything, i personally don't think she would want to be invited, i just feel bad because now im just like second guessing everything, and im just thinking, should i have invited her from the begining? i know im totally overthhinking this , this is just how i get...

jessikayla

I agree. I definitely would not mention that fact that you didn't think she would go. Mentioning that you didn't have her address is another questionable one because as you said, you email once in a while and have lunch monthly so you could have asked her for it at some point.   

alliecarrie41

who cares that you are having lunch?   are you inviting every person in the world you have a meal with?  stop stressing, enjoy your friend's company, catch up, and move on. 

dianenjnj

chelsea has the perfect solution...sneaky, but perfect!

brad1431

I agree with chelsea

Deener713

Give her an invite and tell her you didn't want to pressure her because her husband is sick and you didn't think she was coming but you wanted to give her an invite because you want her to know you would be happy to have her there.

alliecarrie41

i cant believe you all think she should have invited her?  i mean, she didnt make the cut when making the list, why should she now?  if she wasn't that close to you to come then, i really have no idea why you'd care if she came.