BM Shoes??

jessikayla

Hey girls,Need a little help. I am having a winter wedding with 8 BM's and the color of the dress is an ice blue. I have been hearing complaints from them that wedding parties no longer dye their shoes to match the dress. I have heard some girls say that they want to wear silver. My questions are these:~Are all ouf your BM's wearing the SAME shoe or did you give a color or general idea and let them choose?~And do people dye their shoes anymore to match the dress??Thanks!Jess

soontobemrsdavis

the general consensus will be "let them pick there own shoe and no dye!"However my BP wantedme to pick the show and wanted everyone to have the same shoe. It was more work for me, looking for a darn shoe for them. But it worked for my girls.  If your girls seem to want to pick their own shoe then give them the color and maybe type (ie. peep toe, strappy, etc)

ddelo23

my girls all wore the same shoe - silver.  they were cheap from payless, and my dresses were long, so it didnt' really matter.  I wouldn't have cared if they wore their own silver shoes though.  I wouldn't really want to dye mine either.

neilly18

I would let them pick their own shoe in silver.  I think it will look very nice!  Some girls may want a high heel, some girls a low heel.  This way you will be assured everyone is as comfortable as possible,

mbcdefg

No, they will wear a black shoe of their choosing. I haven't seen it at many weddings recently. I saw it at one last year, where the BM dresses were long and purple. Other than that, they either wore neutral shoes or I didn't even notice their shoes. My thoughts (sorry it's long): * When you wear a dress in regular life, how often do you get dyed shoes to match your oufit? Probably never, right? You wear a neutral shoe that matches the outfit. So why should a wedding be any different?* How many weddings do you go to where you actually notice the BMs' shoes? Especially if they're in long dresses. Not only what color they are, but if they match the other girls. Who cares if they match? * When the BMs DO have dyed shoes, it seems to call a lot of unnecessary attention to their feet. * Unless the BMs dye the shoes black, they will probably never wear them again. It's a waste of money, especially when they probably already own a suitable pair of silver, gold or black shoes (or they can at least get future use out of them if they have to buy new ones). Every time I go to the Salvation Army I see tons of dyed shoes for sale. * IMO, aside from the dress, if you're requiring the BMs to wear something specific (shoes, jewelry, pro hair and makeup), then you as the bride should pay for it, otherwise you don't have the right to demand that they do something specific. (I'm talking about dictating the exact shoe they must wear, not specifying a general color or even a style ... like if you said to wear a silver strappy sandal then they should pay for it since they get a choice). * If you insist on dyeables, IMO you should pay for it and at least let them each pick a style they like, since women's feet are all different and people have different comfort levels and such. For example, my one BM never wears closed-toe shoes, and I know other people can't wear certain widths or heel heights. I would ask them to wear silver shoes of their choice.

uppereastgirl

My bridesmaids wore gold shoes of their choosing.  I doubt anyone even noticed that they were wearing different shoes, and since most of them already had nice gold strappy shoes, they didn't have to buy new.  I've worn the same pair of gold shoes (which I wear all the time anyway because they're so comfy) in the last three weddings I've been in, which is nice.  I love not having to make that investment each time I'm in a wedding.I think dying to match a dress is dated (and also impractical, as they won't be able to wear them again).

caketime

Do not have them wear dyed shoes.  The most uncomfortable and biggest waste of money, especially since they do not want to.I said pick a pair of silver shoes you like and are comfortable in.  If you want to give them parameters of type I guess you can but they are shoes, not that big of a deal.  Let them be comfortable.

kpeteley

My girls will wear whatever shoe they want.  I feel like that way they can control how much they spend, heel height etc that they are comfortable with.  If I were you I would give them a color option and then let them choose style-

FutureMrsF111

Im giving my girls a color and a heel requirement. Im 5'10" and they are short and for pictures I asked them to be in heels. I am buying them ballet flats for the reception in the same color so if they are uncomfortable in the heels they can change. I would only do dyeables if the dress was short and black silver or gold would not work with the dress for some reason.

viviannac

I would just give them the color and let them pick their own shoe.

Laurms15

My girls are all choosing their own silver shoe. I didn't give any requirements other then that. I am in a wedding Next Ocotber and we are all wearing any gold shoe we choose. I think choosing a color usually silver/gold/black and letting the girl choose her own style has become the most popular option!

melissa82

I'm going to ask them to get a silver shoe of their choosing. No one notices the BM's shoes. The only time I'd want them to get the same shoe is if the dresses were short.

jen629

I let them pick their own shoes in silver

cherylanddan0706

I told my girls, brown, bronze or gold, after that I don't care as long as they don't look like stripper shoes LOL

Brooke_TheSequel

I told them black shoes and do what they wanted from there...  and then they jointly decided strappy heels.  I wouldn't have cared had they had done their own thing.Honestly, I don't think people notice. 

Tara2316

I'm just letting my girls pick their own shoes. I'd hate to have them waste money on a shoe they'd never wear again.

reneel828

My girls wore silver and I told them to wear any black shoe they wanted. They also had different style dresses and different chunky accessories. So I went with the not matchy matchy look. But I say any silver shoe of their choice.

erikag23

if the dress is long, then just let them pick their own shoe, but all the same color. if they are tea length, then i think they should have all the same shoe. looks much nicer is pictures. btw, i think a strappy silver would like nice with the ice blue. and dyables are just AWFUL.

30may09bride

My girls wore black shoes of their choosing and they were in short dresses, so you can see the shoes.  I didn't specify anything beyond that.  All but one ended up with some type of rather high heel (2"+) with peep toe or strappy, and one of my BM has severe arthitis and can't wear heels, so she wore cute black flats.  I think they looked great! 

jessikayla

Thanks girls! My decision has been made and they will pick their own shoe! I appreciate all of your responses!

uppereastgirl

Here are some pictures of my bridesmaids in short dresses wtih different shoes, so you can see if it bothers you:http://tinyurl.com/kuhw39 http://tinyurl.com/kqfc24 http://tinyurl.com/lc2unn I really don't think anyone really would notice or care looking at the pictures that the girls are in different shoes. 

melissa82

You're right uppereast, you can't even really notice.

mbcdefg

Plus, I think something like strappy sandals or black pumps really looks the same anyway, even if they're not the exact same brand and style.

alliecarrie41

i HATE dyed shoes.  shoes do not need to match your clothing, nor does your makeup, your hair accessories... ugh.  i let my girls wear whatever they liked.  my sister is doing the same for us.

30may09bride

Even if you could notice the different shoes, I personally don't think it looks bad.  My girls were also in different dresses, but I really liked the look that my BP had.  http://i36.tinypic.com/167pai1.jpg

uppereastgirl

30maybride, I also really like the mixed dress look-- it worked great in your case.  I wish my girls had gone for that (they had several options, but all picked the same dress).

30may09bride

Thanks uppereast!  I actually went in thinking that they would have the same dress, but that didn't last too long.  I was really happy with how it looked!

cherylanddan0706

May30, my girls all have different dresses, I love idea

melissa82

I tried the different dress thing, but then they ended up picking the same dress (unknown to each other), and one couldn't decide/didn't care, so they ended up being the same, except my sis (MOH).

Kvarrone

I found silver shoes on clearance for all my BM's... I called them for their sizes and bought them all. Cannot beat 20 bucks! The shoes didn't match either, they all had different styles. Also, I started with the same dress for all my girls bc they all liked it, but then 3 of my girls got pregnant and had to make a last minute switch to maternity dresses! I like it both ways... different dresses or matching.

Rosie24

They can wear whatever silver show they like as long as it's not my silver shoe...haha. Also, why dye a shoe silver when you can find a nice pair in almost any budget!? I am not a fan of dyeables.