WDYT: Is it Pushy

neilly18

Is it Pushy to alert OOT guests who you know are coming to the wedding that the hotel block deadline is coming up?  Personally it does not matter to me if they stay at the hotel or find other accomodations I just don't want them to be excluded from our room block if they do book late.  I am not sure how I would know to include them in the OOT bags/info etc.

uppereastgirl

Yeah, I think it is kind of pushy-- I think it is fine to warn your sister or whatever, but I think you have to keep it to people you're very close with who are slackers.  I know that this would vary by hotel, but guests who booked late at our hotel and mentioned the wedding were still put as part of our room block-- got the special rate (which was probably the regular rate anyway, but whatever) and we were given their names.  We had a few people who booked but didn't mention the block, but we figured some of them out.  If people don't let you know they're staying there, they don't get bags or info.  That isn't so awful.

neilly18

Thanks for the input. I was leaning towards no too.  You are right about the "special rate" too. I think mine was a $4.00 discount.

Danes983

IMO I dont think its pushy at all.  Just kindly call or drop a note saying we just wanted to remind you since your coming from out of town. We want to make sure if you want a room your able to get one. Some people I think will be happy with the reminder as it probably slipped their mind.

cvl105

Maybe it would be pushy to older guests....but I dont' think so for your friends...who are most likely the procrastinators who haven't booked yet. I will be reminding my friends as the date gets closer.

mbcdefg

I don't think it's a bad thing to mention it in conversation to people, but I don't think I'd send out letters or a mass e-mail or anything like that.

The Little One

I emailed all my friends that the deadline was approaching and got a few thank you emails. Particularly if you're using a shuttle, I think it would be nice to give guests a reminder so they are not put out by having to find their own transportation.

dianenjnj

i think maybe use the "family grapevine" for this.i wouldn't e mail or call specifically...let your close relatives spread the word.

I <3 Seabass

Will they still get the group rate if the mention your wedding during booking? If so then I don't think you need to remind them. If they won't get the rate anymore and the normal rate is significantly higher, it might be nice to remind them so that they're not annoyed with the price increase when they finally go to book.

neilly18

Thanks for all the input  -  After the shower invite debacle I want to make sure I am erring on the side of what is common courtesy.  Maybe my college friends I will let know myself - if I have not offended them in my lifetime already this certainly won't be the straw that does it.  And let the family grapevine do the rest of it.

neilly18

I am not sure about the rate but it was not a significant discount.  Part of it is as a PP mentioned - the transportation.  Hotel provides a shuttle but we are also provided supplemental shuttle.  Our venue is nestled in a small town in Bergen County and a little difficult to find so anyone who uses the shuttle will have a much easier time.

I <3 Seabass

Check with your hotel to see if they'll still keep track of people who book for your wedding after the deadline. I know our hotel will, they just wont guarantee that they'll have a room available for them. If they are going to keep track than I don't think you need to worry about reminding them because they should be included on the list for OOT bags and will be able to get the shuttle info that way.

BrideMaidPro

IMO I do not think it is pushy at all.  Chances are, a lot of people might have just let it slip their mind.Just word the email nicely (which I am sure you would anyone, so my advice is not helpful, haha)but def do not think it is pushy.

teamAandE

ditto Little One, I only emailed my friends.My mom and MIL I made sure knew to book rooms for whoever they knew needed it and everyone else was on their own.

jaimelody

I don't think it's pushy at all. I'm one of those people who could us a little reminder. Ditto mbcdefg- maybe a mass email reminder.

erikag23

i sent an email out to our friends because they tend to be slackers. as for family, there were on their own.

FutureMrsF111

If you have a way of knowing exactly who has not booked I think sending an email is ok but if you are uncomfortable doing it you definately dont need to. I would be more concerned about the hotel releasing the rooms and there not being rooms available then about the rate so if that is a concern I would email my close friends and family with a gentle reminder.  

alliecarrie41

if you told them once, you dont have to tell them again.  like PP said, if it's your bridal party or best friend or sister and you need to remind, sure... everyone else, they'll figure it out.