I have been browsing the nest lately (not so much the NJ board but the national ones) and no matter what a persons delimma is over there, their advice is get a divorce. It's like "My husband forgot to take out the trash. What should I do?" -Response... "Kick him out." and "My wife used to screw me 4x a week, lately its only 2x a week. What do I do?" Response... "Leave that selfish wife!" I am exaggerating a bit but they scare me! I dont know about them, but I've only been married 8 days and I want to stay that way.