Guest Issue WWYD

cherylanddan0706 · October 2009

I'm posting a lot of these WWYD lately aren't I :)So a friend of mine (girlfriend from work) was invited with her and her boyfriend (invite said Ms Friend and Mr Friends Boyfriend) since they had been together for quite sometime. She replied with "and guest" (even though invite was to her and him) so I let it go till recently it became obvious that they broke up, and she keeps making "jokes" that she is inviting people from work as her date. We were really pretty strict on the "and guest" no one got an and guest unless they were serious with a BF/GF etc. We had 2 people I let that slide with, my friend who is going through a really bad divorce, and my friend who just left the marines and will barely know anyone at the wedding. (marine boy responded with no guest).I honestly don't want her bringing some random person, there are many reasons for this.Do I tell her how I feel or do I just let it be and shut up because its just one person. I honestly have lost all sense in being petty or not. So be honest :)TIA

kewltif · October 2009

At this point I'd let it go. She already replied back as 2.

Rosie24 · October 2009

You invited her with a guest. You shouldn't take that back. Let it be.

melissa82 · October 2009

Probably let it go at this point. But try me in a few weeks when I start having my own RSVP problems and I may change my tune. ;-)

cherylanddan0706 · October 2009

Oh its fun Melissa! Its a fricken blast, especially the new one I got was "FI, I will be at your wedding reception, but I won't get there till 730 so don't count me in your caterer count" *sigh*

kathymarie · October 2009

Technically, she is in the wrong, since her BF was invited by name, not "and guest."However, I would just let it go because in the end she will be embarassed and you will look like a bittch for being so strict about it.

cvl105 · October 2009

well, I'll give you two options 1) Let it go...not worth the headache in dealing with it. 2) If you have a mutual friend that you trust, you could mention it to the other friend and have her talk to this girl and be like "So are you coming alone now since you and Joe Shmoe broke up"? and when the friends responds, "No, I'm bringing someone else", she can then tell her that you really only invited guests for those who were in relationships and see what happens from there.

mbcdefg · October 2009

If you specifically addressed the invite to Mr. Boyfriend, and not "And Guest," then you can talk to her and just tell her that the invite's not for a random date. I don't think you'd be rude at all to tell her this. But whether or not you want to is another story ... IMO, if including a date for her doesn't mean that you have to stretch your budget or cut someone else from the guest list, and it'll cause drama to tell her not to bring someone, I'd personally just let it go.

kle0113 · October 2009

We were pretty serious with the no and guest unless they were serious also. With that said one of MH good friends called and asked if it was ok he bring a date. I caved and said yes it's one person and he is the only one who asked so why not. Besides that he knew a lot of people at the wedding and still wanted to bring a guest. So I guess I would let it go, but I think I would let her know that it was not cool how she went about it and did not really tell you.

cherylanddan0706 · October 2009

If you specifically addressed the invite to Mr. Boyfriend, and not "And Guest," then you can talk to her and just tell her that the invite's not for a random date. I don't think you'd be rude at all to tell her this.I told her this, well in a "joking" manor in office convo because she told my boss that she was going to ask the VP of our Finance department, I started having a panic attack.I think in the end I should just let it be to avoid having to deal with the "but why and why and how" BS that I would probably have to deal with.

alliecarrie41 · October 2009

i am on the fence.. i think you kinda have to let it go, and that would just be easier. but id' be annoyed. if i invite adam & eve and they rsvp 2 and show up as adam & jessica, i'd think that was rather rude. but it's not worth the fight.

Linzpicc · October 2009

Well you will eventually need to know who she is bringing because of escort cards/seating arrangements, so you could be passive and ask who she is coming with if anyone at all and start the convo that way.

dianenjnj · October 2009

i'd let it be.

ffbride_0813 · October 2009

I would let it be but does she even have an and guest to bring. It sounds like she still is shopping around for one. It would be even worse if you had to pay for a guest who was a no show.