this must be normal..right?

calicchc

okay so I purchased my dress at Pronovias in NYC...a week later i changed my mind. Went back to the store and tried on my dress and another one cause I thought I was going to change my mind. In the end I didn't but now every dress I see I think "I like that one so much better"...i'm freaking out. ive literally changed my mind once about everything (cake, venue, photogs) but the dress is like a constant thing.....especially with the litter runway show next to the posts. what do i do??

calicchc

change "litter" to little.... it sounds like i'm talking about puppies in dresses! lol

I <3 Seabass

I don't think that's normal....maybe you should turn off the knot tv.

erikag23

you need to stop second guessing yourself or you are going to drive yourself insane.  and no, i didn't second guess my dress.  stop buying wedding mag's.

ffbride_0813

You should read the knot without the tv.  That will prevent you from watching the shows.  Rightclick the title and open in a new window.  I think its normal though to second guess things. There must be a reson you liked that dress so just focus on the goods in that dress instead of the ways others are better.

ddelo23

stop looking.  stop watching wedding shows.  stop looking at dresses on theknot.  etc etc etc.  breathe.

calicchc

i agree but don't you guys feel like its everywhere? its like every tv channel has a wedding show.also my future BIL is getting married so the house is buzzing with wedding stuff. luckily i've yet to second guess my FI! lol i tell him that all the time.

mbcdefg

Weddings are only going to invade your life as much as YOU let them. So turn the channel, don't buy bridal magazines and ease up on the websites. You shouldn't be "freaking out" about your wedding, especially almost a year in advance. You're planning a PARTY. This is supposed to be FUN! Just make a decision and then move on. It makes no sense to dwell on things ... realize that not everything is going to be perfect, and that's O.K. Pick things that you and FI like and can afford, pull the trigger and then don't look back, otherwise you are going to drive yourself and everyone else around you nuts.

calicchc

thanks everyone. i'm going to take your advice to heart. i know i still have a year but we are trying to get most of the planning done because everyone was getting booked! lol.. i think once everything is mostly booked i'll be able to ease up. i think i got a little caught up in everything.

mbcdefg

I think it also helps to pick a couple of things that you really want to devote time and energy to, and then decide on what things you can just say, "Eh, that's good enough" to. And also decide what insignificant things you can leave until later, so that if you run out of time/money/energy, you can scrap it and not miss it. For example ... we wanted a good deal on a reception hall but also a place that we liked a lot instead of just "settling," so we visited maybe 7 and I did a lot of research into prices/reviews, until we walked into one and said, "This is what we want." We really wanted good photos, so I researched a bunch, we met with two and really clicked with one so we booked him (we would've visited more if necessary). For the flowers, though, the main concern was to stay on a budget. So I paid attention to Knottie reviews, picked one that was local and was known to have good prices, talked with him and liked him, and booked him on the spot. For invites, I ordered two samples from a lower-priced website, we picked the one we liked best and ordered it. And I'm leaving things like programs, favors, etc., until the end ... if they don't get done, then they don't get done. Not a big deal. Guests are going to notice the food, booze and entertainment, not whether your menus perfectly match the table runner. Don't put so much energy and time into every single thing. Pick a few things that you will be willing to spend a lot of time on to get just the way you want them, and then learn to let go of the rest.

justkris10

I second guessed my dress a LOT to the point where I thought I hated it and was so upset that I was "stuck" with it - so I went out and bought another one to change into - the day of, when I put the dress on I couldn't believe for 1 second that I thought I didn't like it - it was gorge, I loved everything about it and still do Agree with pp - stop with the bridal mags and looking at dresses online I think that was my killer too