MGs: Uninvited guests at church?

melissa82

Did you have a lot of uninvited guests show up at your ceremony?My dad ran into my cousin's grandmother today and she mentioned how excited she is to come to the church to see me get married. My dad thought it was odd, mentioned it to my mom and sister, who then said that some of my mom's co-workers and my sister's friends are planning to come, too. I'm not put off or anything like that, more just surprised that they would want to.

cvl105

I think it's strange.  Grandma may having nothing better to do and it'll get her outta the house...not that your wedding isn't the best thing happening, duh!

Rosanna'n'Steve

a couple of my coworkers came since they lived in hoboke so they stopped by the church even though they were not invited.  Other than that, I have no idea if there were other uninvited people there.  You are so in the moment you barely realize the invited guests that are there, lol. 

jen629

Honestly I was so freaked out I cant remember most of the people at church but when we left I didnt see anyone that wasnt invited

abittman

yes i had a couple.  A couple old friends mom's (the friends weren't invited to the wedding) and old neighbors.

kathymarie

People like weddings. I had a few there that I knew, but didn't invite. Didnt know they were there until I saw pics!

uppereastgirl

None.  I can't imagine that anyone would have wanted to?My ILs do this ALL THE TIME though.  They've gone so far as to travel an hour (which for them, requires a nights' stay at a hotel) to see my SIL be a bridesmaid in a ceremony.

melissa82

That's really funny, Uppereast. I could see one of my BM's parents doing that.

kimmys81

We had about 20 maybe? Honestly, I didn't mind. There was one lady that I DID not want to show up and I did everything in my power to keep the ceremony info from her. She didn't show up, but died after a car accident suddenly in September. I felt bad after that.

uppereastgirl

They don't seem to do much social otherwise, and are very active in the church, so I guess they know when all the weddings are and go to basically every ceremony where they sort of know or used to know the kid.  I would feel so awkward if I was doing a receiving line and all sorts of people I didn't invite to the reception were there.  Thanks for spending an hour watching me get married, even though you didn't merit an invitation from me?

Laurms15

If some of my high school friends get married at my home church I'll go to the ceremony. I know some of my neighbors/HS friends/mom's friends are planning on being there for the ceremony. We've been members of the same parish and lived in the same town for 30ish years. I don't think its unusual its very common in my town/parish. However I would not travel more then a town or two and I would think it was weird if someone from FI's side who wasn't invited came to the church since they all live so far away.

DMLJ

I will probably have more at my ceremony than for the reception..... I am the cantor at my church and lots of parishoners have mentioned coming to the ceremony and they will probably put it in the bulletin. I also will probably have some students at the ceremony as well.

laurenlacey

i actually would have ended up with some, but since my #s were under the minimum I ended up fully inviting the people who asked to come to the ceremony. I think it's a nice thing that they want to come. I offered the option to some parents of kids at the school I work at, too.

CM1206

yeah I had a few.

kewltif

I had a couple. One of my BM's parents and grandparents came because they actually belong to that church and wanted to see her. It didn't bother me one bit!

mrs.spunky1508

Yep, we had them.Former coworkers of my mom who knew me before I was born. LOL these are people my mom met like 40 years ago when she first started with her company, and she saw them a few weeks before the wedding for their every-other-year-or-so get-together.Neighbors.People I knew from church or school who saw our names in the bulletin under Wedding Banns.My hair & makeup lady who is a friend of my cousin's.

30may09bride

I didn't have any.  I kind of agree that it is odd to just show up at someone's ceremony when you weren't invited.

mrs.spunky1508

As for BP members' family -  On my side, all of the bridesmaids families (parents) were invited. My MOH and one of my bridesmaids, well I've known their families for years and could not imagine not inviting them. My other 3 BMs were DH's cousins so obviously his aunt and uncle (his godparents as well) were at the wedding.My H did not follow suit. I've only met 2 of our GM's parents, at their respective weddings, and I'd venture a guess that my H has never met one of his GM's parents, but we've both hung out with his sister.

akmackay

Actually a few of my high school friends and I went to our other friends' ceremony even though we weren't invited (but we were told the reasons were solely and monetary which I do understand). I just wanted to see my friend get married and she was very happy that we didn't hold a grudge for it. I expect my BM parents and siblings to come since we are so close.

melissa82

I don't mean to give the impression that I mind. I definitely don't. I just found it surprising and not something that would really occur to me to do.

dmoney79

some of my mom's co-workers came to the ceremony.....we couldn't invite everyone, and, my mom has been there for a while, they know me, know what was going on with the planning, so they wanted to see me get married....i thought it was nice that they wanted to be there to share it with us....

alliecarrie41

no, i did not notice anyone at the church i did not know or who wasn't invited, however i wouldn't really care since catholic churches open doors to anyone to peek on in.  weird, but whatever. 

dianenjnj

we had many, many people from the neighborhood and relatives of those invited who lived in the area come to our wedding ceremony....of course, this was back in ny when there actually WERE neighborhoods.at any rate i was honored that these people wanted to be there..of course, if you are getting married in a small chapel and have just enough room for your guests this could be a problem.

melissa721

We had a decent amount. Melissa, I can't believe you are almost married. When I first got on here, you had a year and a half!

Mye

a few, BM's parents, a couple who doesnt go to the party because their son died, but they were invited, my FSIL mother

Kelly&Timothy

some of the parents of my students have mentioned that they want to come with the kids. i think it will be nice to have them there. for most of them i am there 1st teacher (pre-school) and i have had them for several years. i don't think its weird to have other people show up. if people are happy for you and want to see and support you. no big deal.

chrissy31805

not a mg, but chiming in.. i wouldnt mind univited guests showing up at the ceremony. especially people i work with. im a teacher and i love all of the other teachers i work with but im not inviting them to the wedding. i wouldnt mind them coming by to see me get married though. they're at least there for a special part of your day