Bridal Showers-who gets invited?

AllieCat16

I am not really sure of the proper ettiquete of who gets invited to the shower? it is all women invited to the wedding, even if they are dates of the bride and groom's friend?  are out of town guests usually invited?

Heather822

No, definitely not ALL women.
I certainly would feel uncomfortable if wives of FI's coworkers whom I never met were invited and felt obligated to come or send a gift.
Really just use your discretion ~ close friends and family are fine, no matter where they live.

maddie7

I invited out of town relatives as they would feel excluded otherwise and I know they would like to contibute.  I invited almost everyone minus what the pp said, co-workers wives that I didnt know....

Laurms15

Nope not all women just the women the bride is closest to. This can also include groom's family that you may not know so well yet but someone should ask the groom's mom who she feels like inviting (assuming you are having one shower) My BMs spoke to DH's mom and got her list of her family/friends that she felt comfortable inviting and they invited the women in my cicle who I was closest to. Not everyone who was invited to the wedding was invited to the shower.

Pink7781

I invited every woman who was invited to the wedding. This was mainly because my mom and MIL felt that this was necessary and kicked in the extra money to invite them. I personally don't think it is always necessary but it depends on the relationships you have with these people.

NJMom050911

I always thought it would be the women I'm closest to and that's whom I invited. Since then my invites have been sent but my mother and FMIL and BMs are driving me insane. The shower is by far the most drama filled event thus far. I have since needed to ask my BM (who was in charge on the invites since this is suppose to be a surprise) to add my FMIL friends that I've never met and also some of one of the groomsmen family that I've never met. I tried explaining to them that I feel it's rude to ask for a present when you don't know the person but no-one listens. Sorry, this was more of a vent than a response to your question.

mrs.amma

I invited my close female relatives (read: aunts, cousins, etc...), FI close female relatives who I also know very well (again read: aunts, cousins, cousins gf's), and my close friends (including BM of course).

There was some debate about including his female friends that are invited to the wedding, but I was not comfortable having them there. I really only associate with them through him. And after reading etiquette articles that said the people invited are my female fam, his female fam, and my friends, I felt no guilt.

jaimelody

We invited all women that were family and invited to the wedding and local. It's up to you if you feel someone from OOT would want to contribute and you want to send an invite. I'm OOT for most of the weddings I've been going to lately and appreciate an invite to their showers as they know I won't be able to make it but would definitely send a gift.

kasabby

I would say family and friends that you are comfortable with. I have been in situations where I have been invited to showers for FI's friend's fiancee or a co-worker's FI and I didn't feel comfortable going, if I didn't know anyone there.