Wedding Gift Question

TaraK22

Happy Friday guys!
I hope those who went to the GTG last night had fun! I didn't want to risk infecting anyone with this terrible flu that I'm still getting over, but I am hoping to make it to the next one (famous last words lol).
So this may sound really stupid, but I really don't know the answer. I know that many people give their FI a wedding gift, and I would like to do this as well. Nothing ridiculously expensive, but a nice card and something small. My question is, does this gift have to be something that FI actually wears/uses on the wedding day? Or, can you get something that FI has really wanted but won't wear that day (like if FI would wear his "saint" charm necklace on the wedding day, but has been eyeing a different necklace, can you buy him that?). I don't know if this question is silly, but I really don't know the answer, so any thoughts are appreciated.
TIA!

JoBell123

I think gifts are up to you to decide if and what you'll give and it can be anything meaningful.  If there's something that you know your FI wants, then it would mean something to him to receive it on his wedding day, even if he's not going to wear it that day.

mbcdefg

The Wedding Police won't come and get you if it's not the "right gift."

Get him whatever you think he'd like.

MH and I didn't even exchange gifts (although he did book a bagpiper for me and didn't tell me until a day or two beforehand). I bought him a card that he apparently didn't see sitting right by the rings. We had each other's ring engraved with a secret message, and on the morning of the wedding he wanted us to look at them before I left to go get ready at my parents' house, so that was it.

TaraK22

Hehe, the wedding police Thanks guys! I think I knew that this was the answer, but apparently my anxiety is high today and so I'm looking for something to stress over.

PrettyGirl815

The secret message in the ring is awesome. I love that idea. May have to steal it, it's so good.

I agree--you go with your heart on the gift. I was going to get FI a nice watch and have it engraved--he's crazy tough to buy for, though.  Go with your gut!